Betrayal as uncertainty in self-affirmation Betrayal... betrayal... betrayal.. This is an unpleasant thing, I tell you. Yes, you yourself know. What is treason to the Motherland, what is treason to a company, what is treason to a family, what is treason to a spouse, and even treason to anyone with whom you are bound by important obligations, then it is like faith in you by mutual consent. Betrayal is not an expected “substance” and is very much not a pleasant phenomenon. Not pleasant is akin to the word “not accepted.” There is no way to accept it because it is difficult to comprehend. It's not very expected. Only because of this. Therefore, in order for betrayal to stop being so deafeningly painful, what is needed? That's right - to anticipate. And so some of us managed to come up with an antidote to betrayal: go to the left in advance, so that it would not be so excruciatingly painful if it suddenly comes. I agree that it won't hurt that much. It seems like you were betrayed and you were the first. It seems like you were deceived and you are already... It seems like you were “made to look like a fool” - but you got ahead, which means you are smarter... As for me, these are very dubious methods of “avoiding pain”. After all, if you think about it: what if he or she doesn’t cheat, but you have already, in advance, because of fear, dubious experience, or another reason, already cheated. Pretending that you didn’t cheat will not work. Do you know why? Absolutely right. Everything has its consequences. Its consequences. A noble act has noble consequences. And the obscene ones have obscene ones. And with betrayal - you will get betrayal where you don’t expect. Conclusion: If someone cheats, then let it be his problem. We know that he has: Either a lot of fears and prejudices, Or a negative past experience, Or this is how his parental family was, Or distorted, missing values, Or his psyche has not grown - he is more of an animal, Either or... Who cares why he is like this? Important do not mirror his problems, do not copy him, do not become an animal. And then you will no longer be bothered by OTHERS’ betrayals. Author of the article, medical psychologist Tatyana Silaeva Internet courses + Preparing children for school + Successfully overcoming anxiety and obstacles https://www.b17.ru/ courses/++ Psychosomatic health and safety + Preservation of feminine energy I want to become a psychopath (how to stop being a victim) and more ..