In relationships between men and women, cheating is an indicator that something is happening and in fact it is not always clear what exactly. Someone can explain what the betrayal is connected with and specifically voice feelings and reasons . And someone shrugs their shoulders in bewilderment and talks about feeling guilty before their partner. Usually these are difficult feelings and the partners suffer; in rare cases, betrayal is a process of self-affirmation, for example, in men. If a woman does not respect her partner and he does not receive what he deserves in the relationship, outsiders take advantage. So to speak, replenishment of feelings. For the most part, male infidelity is not always a betrayal at the level of the soul and the partner either has fun, or tests feelings in the partner, or increases self-esteem, or simply satisfies physiological needs. For women, everything is a little different: for example, lack of care and attention, revenge partner, searching for a spiritual connection. The latter often frightens and causes indignation in the male ranks. It seems that the man is satisfied with his actions and behavior, but the partner does not feel any warmth. And since a man lives more by logic, this doesn’t fit in his mind much. Then the man says: “I don’t know, what else is she missing?” - I earn money, the family is provided for, there is no need. And only the woman talks about something else. She says that she is looking for more - contact at the soul level. Something that may not be in a relationship or lost as a result of a partnership. When cheating occurs on the part of a woman, the partner is amazed, to forgive means to ignore one’s manhood, to undermine confidence and trust in the relationship. It is so difficult for a man to forgive that in rare cases and in strong feeling only remains possible. Sometimes a partner is dependent in a relationship and this can also affect the principle of forgiveness. Some kind of compensation, nothing more. With women everything is different: it is difficult to forgive, but more often the opportunity is more real. A partner with pain in her soul and due to her feelings can accept the situation, but if possible, she will want to take revenge. The most interesting thing is that in both cases, the partners have an accumulation of emotions and the response is important. Balancing and balancing in a relationship comes down to the fact that the offended partner wants revenge or repayment of the pain caused. The question always arises: “What can you do or are you willing to do to make the relationship last?” The point is that the partner must somehow balance, for example, hurt a little less. Then the couple maintains the relationship and the story can continue. In family counseling, often the treatment on the topic of betrayal is such that at the time of betrayal the partners cannot even talk. The pain is so severe in the early stages. They can't even look at each other and say how hard it is for them. Of course, if the betrayal occurred due to an unconscious context. In case of betrayal, feelings come into play that prevent you from moving towards a joint decision to preserve the relationship. Resentment on the part of the one who was hurt, guilt on the part of the one who caused it, and accordingly, claims arise. The smallest details and negative aspects in a relationship may come to light. Here it is important to return partners to the time and place when they felt good, and if desire and feelings are preserved, the relationship can and should be rehabilitated. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. And one of the couple, for example, says that he doesn’t care. There are no feelings and no regrets about what was done. Then there is nothing to save. Families where partners have children are subjected to greater torment. Responsibility for the collapse of the family is shared between two. You can only save what exists. You can't destroy something that no longer exists! A woman’s wisdom is often advantageous; the system of preserving the family hearth works. The second point is that a woman can cope with a lot when it comes to, for example, children. In some families, regardless of gender, upbringing is based on the principle: get married once or get married, live. The third point is children. Nothing stops and encourages the preservation of relationships like a joint