What kind of person do you consider successful? What is the criterion for success? First of all, this is the ability to set goals and competently build your path to achieving it. So, let's learn to correctly formulate our goal. 50% of success depends on this. Pay attention to the phrase “your goal.” The goal should be set by you, and not be imposed by someone. For example, if you think that you should get this specialty, then the words should indicate that the voices of other people are heard in your mind: parents, teachers, etc. Think about whether this is exactly what you need? Then you can say: “I want this!” To do this, first of all, research your needs. The first question you ask yourself is this: 1. If you could do everything, what kind of house would you like to have (job, car, health - everything related to achieving your goal). Here you need a detailed description in the smallest detail of your future personal project. The following questions to clarify your needs: 2. What does it mean to you to have one (...) For example, when my client asked her son what he would like to have, he talked about how he wanted to have a secret entrance to a huge a castle with all kinds of toys. And when asked what it means to you to have such a castle, your son replied that only he can go there and play with his toys. The fact is that he had a younger brother who could come into his room at any moment and interfere with the game. (How important it is not to interrupt a child’s play activity - more on that in other materials). 3. What is the most important thing for you in this? The son replied that in this case no one would stop him from playing. 4. Is this the only place you can get this? Mom has already realized that the child is not satisfied with one of the most important human needs - the need for personal space. But is this the only way to satisfy her, having a magic castle? The son replied that not if the door to the room was closed. And the last question: 5. What do you need for you to have one (...) In this case, my mother asked what is needed for the door to the room to close? The son replied that the door needed a lock. Otherwise, in the language of psychotherapy, such work is called translating the problem into a goal. In other words, there is a certain problem that manifests itself as a contradiction between needs and the impossibility of satisfying them. When you clarify your real needs, you find new ways to meet them through goal setting. After such work, you should immediately ask yourself the question: - What is the first step towards achieving my goal I will take right today? It is important to start right away, without delaying until later. Postponing a new life until Monday does not give you a chance of success. Life is now. prepared by Yulia Vasyukova