ANGER, ANGER, AGGRESSION. All these states in our society are conventionally characterized as “negative” and undesirable, which is why it is common for us to run away from them in fear, and not to understand them, and certainly not accept and not put up with them. In the future, this can and, as a rule, leads to problems with the identification of emotions and, therefore, with their regulation. With an aggressive reaction, a person can experience different emotions: indignation, irritation, anger, rage, etc. Where do they come from? Actually , they are biologically justified and prepare the body for fight or escape. We inherited this mechanism from our distant ancestors. But if it helped an ancient man to defeat an enemy in battle or escape from a ferocious predator, then for our contemporary it often creates problems because it conflicts with the rules of society. Indeed, in most situations, it is, alas, impossible to show physical aggression against an interlocutor who has caused a negative emotion. And fast legs will not help in solving today's problems. For example, an office employee who works with a large flow of information, every day sorting through a huge number of documents, when faced with unpleasant conditions, may internally react like this: blood pressure, increased heart rate, muscle tension, active sweating etc. The body is preparing for action. But action, as a rule, does not occur, and unclaimed preparation for imperfect action remains. Realities force us to stigmatize certain emotions, calling them “negative”, due to the accepted inappropriateness of their manifestation in a social context. However, emotions do not cease to exist from this! And what to do then? Pretend they don't exist? To push us away from ourselves? The answer is clear - no. We need anger, anger, irritation and other emotions from the conditional group of “negative”. They help us outline our boundaries, understand what is acceptable for us and what is not, and broadcast it to others, and also be prepared for various life situations, including dangerous ones (still, these sometimes happen). The emotions we are talking about will manifest themselves under appropriate circumstances throughout our lives. Our responsibility lies in how we come into contact with all our states - we aggravate or help ourselves to live through what is happening. Anger, anger and aggression are aggravated by a ban on them. We forbid ourselves the manifestation of these emotions, while they signal to us “SOS!” , trying to identify the problem - the reason for their appearance. And the reasons may be the following: ⁃ Chronic fatigue, physical and emotional exhaustion. When the body lacks resources, it tries to “save” itself. For example, lack of sleep, chronic pain, poor nutrition, as well as hard daily work can easily become the causes of anger and aggression;⁃ Poor contact with one’s feelings and emotions, automatic suppression, misunderstanding of feelings;⁃ Constantly encountering situations that provoke the activation of a defense mechanism - aggression; - Injustice (when we feel and understand that we are being treated unfairly, but this is not resolved in any way); - Loss of important components of our life: person, business, social status, home; - Fear - anger, aggression can be the result feelings of insecurity and the fear that arises with it; - Violation of boundaries - here anger, anger, aggression act as a defensive reaction and a signal that someone is doing something unacceptable in our direction. The list is not exhaustive. Now we see that anger, anger, irritation, etc. can be not only “wrong”, “unacceptable”, “inappropriate”, “bad”, as is commonly believed, but also useful, helping, focusing our attention on important points that we may have missed. These emotions - including a force that encourages a person to act, to protect their boundaries! And if you don’t suppress, then how can you contact emotions safely for yourself and others? The first thing to do is to notice anger, rage or other “negative” emotion. How