Divorce is one of the biggest stresses for modern children. In this situation, the child suffers from one of his basic needs - safety, and many questions and fears arise. His familiar world is destroyed, mom and dad are no longer together. Do you want to make your child feel better? Try to maintain normal, civilized relations with your ex-spouse. Of course, this is not easy for you, but the child does not have to choose who is closer to him, mom or dad. He must feel that the attitude towards him has not changed. Friendship between parents will help the child cope less painfully with the changes that have arisen in the family. You should answer all the child’s questions correctly, explain that he is safe, he is not in danger, and he is not to blame for the divorce. This dad separated from the mom, but not the child. His parents love him as before. Let your baby experience his feelings and emotions. Accept his feelings with understanding. If this is not done, the child will withdraw into himself along with his experiences. Outwardly he may be calm, but inside he will seethe with strong emotions and experiences that can develop into phobias. It is also important that relatives try to maintain a neutral position, without judging or judging negative situations in front of the child. Provide your child with a familiar life in the first three months after a divorce and under no circumstances prohibit communication with your ex-spouse. There is no need to blackmail your ex-spouse with a child. By blackmailing you will achieve your goals, but for a short period, but the child’s experiences will be long-lasting, possibly for life. The most important thing is not to consider your child as your property. If you managed to maintain a good relationship with your ex-spouse, then try to spend some time together, take a walk, go to the game room, or a movie. It is beneficial for a child to spend time with both parents. Do not judge the words and actions of your ex in front of the child. Do not forbid him to communicate with relatives from his ex-spouse. Allow the child to continue living in the environment in which he is accustomed. If the ex-spouse is not particularly interested in communicating with the child, there is no need to shield him, but there is no need to add fuel to the fire. Explain everything as it is, tell the truth: “Today is your birthday, but dad didn’t come. I see that this makes you sad. I'm with you". Do not make your child a spy who will report to you details from the life of your ex-spouse. Don't forget that you are an adult, and in front of you is your child. You should not consult with him about divorce, do not involve him in your adult relationship. Don't pretend to feel fine when you're really worried. The child will feel deceived. It’s better to explain your feelings: “I’m sad that we couldn’t live together with dad, but we love you very much.” Divorce is a traumatic event for all family members. The child experiences it especially strongly. Any mistake, any action of the parent during this process can affect the development of the baby. It is important to help your child cope with the storm of negative emotions received during the breakup of his beloved family, and then in the future he will thank you for it.