From the author: It seems to me that it is no longer a secret to anyone that the problem of excess weight is complex, i.e. There are many and different reasons for it. I will not list them all; in this article I want to highlight only one, which I encountered while working with a client who addressed the above problem. (Published with the permission of the client) There lived a girl, beautiful, fragile, she did not grieve. Well, or she was struggling, but everything was fine with her body. Time passed, and then, at the age of about 10-12 years, the girl began to turn into a girl - roundness began to appear here and there, in general, everything that is called secondary sexual characteristics. And those around her, in particular my mother, began to notice these roundness and girlish beauty. Although dad could also notice, in this example we will take mom. And one day it happened that our grown-up girl, absolutely without a second thought, decided to go out “in public” and dressed in such a way that all her emerging charms were noticeable to those around her. Our girl went on a spree, came a little later than usual (or maybe on time - it doesn’t matter), and was met by her mother, who was in a bad mood at that moment. This is understandable - the relationship with my husband, to put it mildly, is not very good, the years go by, my appearance does not get any younger, and in general there is practically no joy in life. And here on the doorstep is a grown-up daughter, so beautiful, happy, Slender - the mother herself has a figure that is far from ideal. And at that moment my mother was so angry that she couldn’t help herself and rushed at her daughter, who didn’t understand anything, with her fists and words about how shameless, slutty she was, etc. girl. And what happens to the girl? Of course, she is ashamed (and she doesn’t quite understand why), hurt and hurt. And our girl wants to go somewhere, if only this would all stop. And it stops. But the body and unconscious of the girl “remember” - to be beautiful, attractive and sexy is shameful and painful, in general - unsafe. The girl continues to grow and begins to wear beautiful outfits that emphasize her figure less and less, is afraid (even though she wants to!) to attract unnecessary attention from people of the opposite sex, and over time takes less and less care of herself. And her body, also gradually, begins to acquire extra pounds, because under them it is very good (in the opinion of her body and the unconscious) to hide both sensuality and sexuality, and, accordingly, to be less and less attractive to men. And then our girl, no longer a girl at all, watching TV, reading magazines and the Internet, seeing the discrepancy between her appearance and generally accepted standards of beauty, decides that she needs to lose weight. And he begins to try all imaginable and inconceivable methods - he goes hungry, goes on diets, and consumes all sorts of “magic” tea supplements. But here’s the problem: at a minimum, there is no result at all from all this (or “the cat cried”), and at maximum, all the lost weight comes back again. But our heroine does not give up, she thinks that she just lacks willpower, or the methods are all wrong, she gathers her will into a fist - and again to beauty, harmony and a new life. And this can continue for a very, very long time... After all, our heroine has no idea that her body and unconscious do not want these same changes at all, because, as already written above, everything that she strives for is firmly connected with the most unpleasant experiences, but simply - with pain. And for these “parts” of our heroine it doesn’t matter at all that the dangerous situation is already in the past; they are ready to defend their mistress, as they say, to the bitter end. And what should the heroine of our story do? I want slimness and beauty! In my opinion, there can be three options here: 1) resign yourself and live “as is”; 2) continue to struggle with your body, and 3) go to a psychologist/psychotherapist and heal yourself and your trauma (and maybe more than one). In this case, the miracle of harmony is not only possible, but also absolutely real. PS: by the way, the scenery and characters in this psychotrauma scenario can be completely different,...