The article examines the possible reasons for the accumulation of excess tension in the body and psyche in our everyday life, various methods of relaxation and the possibility of using them independently. Do you know how to relax and have you ever thought about how much your productivity depends on your ability to independently utilize excess tension? You probably need to start , from where the excess voltage comes from and why it is not disposed of independently. It all starts with the known reactions to stress, it is generally accepted that there are three of them, but now a fourth has been added:• Fight• Flight• Freeze• Surrender-Befriend These are innate unconscious reactions to any stressful event, and your personal characteristics and characteristics can determine which one will turn on in one situation or another and which one you will unconsciously give preference to. The triggers for each reaction are different and individual for each psyche. But it can be noted that there are strong indications that, in any given case, the “freeze” response is more likely to predominate in the modern world. In our world today, there are rules of law and order that, on the one hand, make our lives safer, but the other side is that the unconscious “hit” reaction can be inhibited by volitional efforts, because it is not socially approved. This is one of the reasons why freezing may be chosen instead of action, a preset in the unconscious, our payment for the average greater security of our life. The mechanisms of “genetic memory” can also play a role; the reaction to freeze is more conducive to survival (in many cases it is better to freeze, and do not rush headlong, breaking paws and tails along the way) and, therefore, was more actively transmitted to future generations, i.e. to us. How to cope with accumulated tension? Of course, we need to pay tribute to all sorts of methods of physical influence on tension in the body, these are saunas, steam baths and massages, these techniques have proven themselves well and work well with tension. If possible, practice, no matter how obvious and banal this advice may be. But let’s take a closer look at other psychological techniques. A good independent practice would be to develop equally all types of stress responses. Thus, you expand your own palette of reactions, and if each of the reactions is “pumped up” and functions well, then in another stressful situation the one that will be considered the most productive will be unconsciously chosen. Exercise for the development of adaptive reactions to stress: Remember any stressful situation from your past (it’s better to start training with small, insignificant episodes). You analyze how you reacted in the past, what kind of reaction it was from fight-flight-freeze-surrender-befriend. Mentally return to the original situation and imagine what other reactions would look like in your performance. It is important here to mentally play along with yourself and intuitively replace real circumstances with complementary ones so that your scenario is positive. Well, it won’t be very cool to start paying compliments to an obviously dangerous and aggressive character, so use your situation from the past as a model in which the main story remains, and you invent the circumstances and details yourself, using your imagination. For example, someone stepped on your foot in a public place, you remained silent (freeze reaction). Imagine the same situation and imagine that you are very loudly and assertively and demonstratively telling the person “Be careful!!!” (the “hit” reaction in our social realities). Let your fantasy be safe for you, here it is important to simply mentally play out how you can do it differently. Next, imagine that you are jumping half a meter with the desire to be as far as possible from the culprit of the event (the “run” reaction, the goal of which is to save yourself). And imagine that you calmly, in a relaxed position, tell the person: “You probably don’t