I often come across this Pseudo-motivator. Cool, right? Takes care of us. Simple and beautiful. Tells what to do. Shows an easy way out. Everything would be fine, but there is a huge BUT: People have nothing to do with it. Run away from some, others will appear, and they will again “turn on” your internal conflict. Yes, yours! People are simply expressing your problem, nothing more. The conflict will repeat itself until you figure out its cause. In a new place, in a different environment, in a new capacity. It is impossible to avoid everyone; it is not always possible to quickly break off contact with such “bad” people (for example, in work or family relationships where there is interdependence). Of course, you should not tolerate negativity, discomfort, and if there is any, this is, first of all, a new information about you, your chance to grow psychologically, and not a signal to escape. If you like avoiding, it may become a habit and then loneliness will become your lot, but even in complete solitude you will not be comfortable - the conflict has not gone away, although it may lurk for a while, which means that instead of people it will begin to be provoked by inanimate objects , information, and anything else. The psychological trauma that gave rise to this conflict does not go away on its own. Unfortunately, our psyche does not have self-healing mechanisms; such things do NOT heal like minor cuts or bruises - on their own. What to do about it? First of all, don’t avoid anything/nobody. If there is some kind of negative, unpleasant reaction, it indicates something and is needed for something. In general, it would be good to eradicate the habit of running away from yourself. Turn to face him and look. What is this? What are the benefits? What helps you see/understand about yourself? Another person simply shows some of your qualities, hidden and suppressed - makes available some parts of your personality that are still unknown, unaccepted and undeveloped. Their development provides a huge resource. This can be rephrased therapeutically as follows: “Thank the people who make you feel lousy, and use this experience for your growth. With their help, you can become a more integral and mature person.” If “someone makes you feel lousy,” this opens up enormous opportunities, and the choice is yours to use them or not.!