Many people criticize gossips out loud and perceive them as useless “talkers” or as the shadow side of the human psyche. In fact, even those who do not respect gossips themselves are not averse to gossiping and discussing themselves and others when the opportunity arises. And that’s great! Because what sits in the subconscious, those feelings, experiences and thoughts that “seethe” in the head and soul, when spoken, begin to emerge into the conscious part of the psyche and become more understandable and controllable. Speaking or “debriefing” is simply necessary in case of traumatic situations! This helps reduce the impact of trauma on the psyche and alleviate its consequences. It is believed that 4 stages or 4 steps are necessary for environmental debriefing. Those. the person who first hears about a traumatic event may himself be traumatized by the material he hears. And he also needs to talk about this with the next interlocutor. After going through 4 stages, the trauma loses its dangerous effect on listeners. Of course, in the best case scenario, it’s worth talking about your experiences to someone who can listen and let them speak out without judgment or their advice, and, most importantly, without criticism! Psychotherapists are trained to professionally listen and perceive that material , which was brought by the client. But there are not enough psychotherapists for every stressful situation or problem. This is where gossips have their healing effect! Moreover, if someone nearby begins to discuss their problems or other people’s events, this helps even a silent, modest person to join in the conversation: “But I have this, too...”, “And my what I did...", "It’s easy for you, but I...", etc. It has been noticed that married couples who are friends together and arrange communication “boys separately, girls separately,” which makes it possible to discuss all issues and everything “suck”, happier and stronger! So, if you haven’t gossiped with anyone for a long time and feel tired, irritated and low on energy, be sure to find the time and opportunity to gossip with someone you know! You'll be doing yourself a huge favor.!