In Gestalt, the important thing is the contact that occurs between people. The therapist supports the client in his search. Each of us has a feeling of anxiety. This anxiety is associated with death, and it is inversely proportional to life satisfaction. Those who have a vibrant life are less afraid of death, because they have already lived, and are less anxious. After 30 years, people usually no longer have the feeling that everything is in order, and anxiety arises that life is passing and you have not lived yet. And then the person’s mental defense mechanisms turn on, which help him not to face this anxiety. Defense mechanisms help avoid excessive anxiety. The use of such mechanisms requires a lot of energy from a person. Repression is when we forget the moments that are scary for us in life or what we don’t want to remember Projection - a person cannot accept or acknowledge his feelings, but at the same time attributes the same feelings to another person Replacement - instead To yell at your boss, it may be easier to yell at your wife, for example. If it is difficult to express your anger, then a good way to discharge anger is sport. Rationalization - a person distorts reality so that it is easier for him. Regression - an emotional return to an earlier period of life, which is safer, in order to avoid anxiety. Denial - refusal to acknowledge an unpleasant event that occurred. Sublimation - switching attention from socially unacceptable goals to acceptable ones. To avoid intimacy, which can be dangerous for us or hurt us, we use certain methods: 1. Confluence is a merger. In order not to meet a person, not to see him, we approach him so close that we stop seeing him and we don’t allow ourselves to be seen. In a merger, it is not clear whose needs are being met.2. Introjection is when a person takes everything that a person gives him, that is, he is completely under his influence.3. Projection is the unconscious transfer of one’s experiences onto another person4. Retroflection is holding back one's feelings in order to be accepted. The man is pushing himself. He starts belittling himself for the sake of the relationship.