From the author: PSYCHOLOGICAL PROTECTIONS save us from pain when in contact with traumatic experiences, but in the long term they make us not entirely adequate, weaken our attention because they require large energy costs, and do not help solve the problem. As a result, unexperienced grief can become torment for the WHOLE LIFE. Almost all PSYCHOLOGICAL DEFENSE against traumatic experiences make us not entirely adequate, weaken our attention since their maintenance requires large energy expenditures, and do not help solve the problem. Here they are: Repression. In situations where we or other people commit an action towards us that, by virtue of our own moral standards, we condemn, it is forgotten. Repression manifests itself as short-term amnesia. Depreciation. Anything that is inaccessible or is an obstacle in any way is criticized. Like: “green grapes”. It is especially pronounced in love and professional relationships, where both the competitor and the desired goal itself are criticized, especially the most worthy qualities of the desired. Projection. What happens in our soul is attributed to others, both familiar people and groups of people or society as a whole. “All men...”, “All women...”, “Power...” Substitution. It occurs by the type of displacement of emotional stress onto a safer object. For example, anger at a spouse is taken out on a child, an animal, dishes... Or: resentment against a wife is taken out on subordinates. Rationalization. The defense does not seem to be a logical explanation, a criticism of the traumatic person or event itself. Regression. The defense looks like a childish reaction. “I don’t play like that”, “Take your toys and...”, etc. Denial. Refusal to recognize what is happening as happening or having happened. When you can’t believe that loss or grief has occurred. For example, the deceased is perceived as alive, a voice, steps, etc. are heard. Sublimation is the most socially acceptable way of psychological defense. We all use defenses to some extent, but if we rely excessively on them, without processing our experience and without solving problems, defenses lead to a distorted perception of the world, relationship disorders, psychosomatic diseases and other psychological difficulties. You can’t do it without the help of a specialist. It is necessary to contact a psychologist and understand the causes of the problem and try to eliminate them. https://vk.com/club64232262