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From the author: One of the most interesting moments was the demonstration of arrangement work with plastic. Not to be confused with plasticine! A unique group has started working at the Olvia Center. Author's three-year educational and therapeutic course by Nadezhda Matveeva “Integrative model of systemic constellations.” One of the most interesting moments of two days was the demonstration of arranging work with plastic. Further from the first person: It is necessary to indicate on a cardboard board where in our space the future will be, where the past will be. Plastic is better than plasticine. Doesn't stick to your hands. Very nice and aesthetically pleasing. We need to mold into the system. Who is included in the system besides a relative? Your business. Your friends. This system may well include some boy or girl from school. You were passionate, there was no relationship, but then for 8 years you could not start a family, you kept sighing about him, such a boy could be part of the system. The main figures are the people with whom you live now. ***To the client: “Choose , what color will you sculpt yourself with. You can have a ball, you can have a square.” A board for modeling without sides is good because it does not limit your movements and actions. If there are sides, it’s as if there are boundaries here. To the client: “Please sculpt your mom and dad.” This is also a form of arrangement. Arrangements have a large number of options. I really love doing visualization arrangements. When a client and I create a visualization. The client has an image. He hangs in space. There are no substitute figures. There are no paper anchors. And the arrangement takes place. This is diagnostics in a minute. A lot becomes manifest and understandable. For example, a client could place himself (his colored plastic ball) between his parents - this would immediately tell us that the client is gluing together the parents’ family system. If the ball of plastic (the client) is too forward (at the edge of the cardboard), what does this mean? Very often this means that a person does not live in the present. And if he does not live in the present, he has his own reasons for this. Or the client placed his ball behind his parents in the past - this means the client identifies himself with someone from the past. To the client: “Who is significant, who else should we put as a plastic ball on the board? Sister.” To the client: “The shade of the plastic ball (sister) is similar to the shade of the mother’s plastic ball, what does this mean?” This means that the sister is closer to the mother than Sasha. Maybe so, maybe not. Or maybe my sister and I are closer. Sometimes clients can make balls of different sizes. This is an art therapy approach in arrangements. Look here please. In a normal arrangement this is difficult to show, but here look how interesting it is. She rearranged her stepfather's piece on the board three times. Because she doesn't know how to place it correctly. She still has nothing to do with it. She is 30 years old. She has known since she was 24 that he is her stepfather, not her father. But she still doesn’t know how to react to this correctly. For some people, the many actions that Sasha did are not significant at all. And for me, as a constellator, these are very important messages. All these little things are important information for the arranger. Why I insist that you work with your plasticine systems. Because at first it is much easier to master the material in the plasticine system. You will have multiple points of attention. You will look after yourself, the client and this plasticine system. And the plasticine arrangement is no less effective than the usual arrangement. If you are interested, you can bring some plasticine and we will spend more time working in pairs with a plasticine family model. And from the next module you will be able to work with clients, and it will be easy for you. I can ask the client: “How do you like it here, in this image of your family?” The client answers: “I’m uncomfortable!” To the client: “What do you want to do?” to make it comfortable?” Client: “Who else would you like to play?” Client: “Mom’s parents – grandparents.” Men make cubes, not balls. They have a right. And one day a client said to me: “Do you know, deartherapist, see you tomorrow! I can’t help but make skirts for myself (my figure). I can’t live without a skirt.” To the client: “How are you feeling?” Client: “Would I move to my father? Mom is aggressive.” To the client: “And if let’s say you stay in place, and she shows her feelings, show me what she will do.” Client: “It will be very loud and very hysterical.” To the client: “What will happen to your a ball?” Client: “I’ll be flattened. I will, of course, return to normal after a while (take my normal appearance). But it takes time to restore yourself. Therefore, it’s cheaper to just move away from mom closer to dad and not waste time...” To the group: “Did I inspire you to work with the plasticine system?” ***If you spend at least 10 minutes a day on the plasticine system. You will experience changes, your family system will heal itself. You will just have to find a good place for yourself. For example, for now, a good place for Sasha is opposite his biological father.***The mistake of novice arrangers who have read the right books: “It’s a mess, we need to do it right!” In fact, no one knows how to do it correctly. Sasha may come home this evening and may want to arrange the plasticine balls and they may form a completely different picture. Or maybe he takes one single ball and rolls it into a pancake... And then he wants to return everything to its original state... Or maybe he wants something else... This can become a way to react safely to anger, safe. There is no need to go into the forest and uproot stumps or chop wood. No need to get calluses or scratches on your hands. We take plasticine and that’s it. Another convenient thing about the plasticine system is that you can build it 200 years into the past and 200 years into the future. You simply can’t imagine what kind of condition you will have. You will have a state of endless flow. You will feel the energy flowing to you in a wide, powerful stream. You can sculpt and put your future into the system: your future job, your future child, your business. You can put into the system the figures of significant teachers, the Reiki system, astrology... Anything. After your arrangements and exercises, you will put in your plasticine system everything that you discovered and identified that is important for the family system. This is a kind of plasticine diary. Sometimes the emptiness in the arrangement turns out to be significant. All people go around one place. Most often there is a phantom sitting there. A phantom is someone who exists, but no one looks at him.*** Our life has boundaries. After the death of a person, the dates of the boundaries of the project of his life are written on the monument. If a project does not have a beginning and an end, there is no project either.***One person brought an A1 cardboard instead of an A3 size cardboard and said: “I want to live a long time.” A large board size is not necessary. You just need to scale it up. The same board size is all 150 years of life. If you need 300 years, scale it up to 300 years.***A special topic is how to talk to a client with parents and relatives about important topics: life and death, abortions and miscarriages, natural and adoptive parents, family secrets and myths. You need to talk in such a way that they are not damaged, and so that you are not damaged.***Feedback on the first module of the three-year training course “Integrative model of system constellations.” It was interesting to me. The overall feeling is good. I don't have enough diagrams. I don’t have any schemes in my training. Fortunately, we have Yura, he has the plans. I always have difficulty with words. Because it always seems to me that words are always a little false. I have come to terms with this and somehow live with it. A lot of interesting and useful things. Makes me think. I wanted to draw my family tree. I have such a feeling of fullness, from my heels to the top of my head, I don’t want to discuss it. Busy two days. I'm really sad that the second module will only be available in December. There are several people who were not able to make it to the first module, but do not want to lag behind the group. For such participants, we will be able to conduct an additional first module and by December there will be more people in the group. Ideal for such a long program2266880