From the author: How to choose one of the many options? How to make a difficult decision? Sometimes you don’t even need to do this! However, not choosing is also a choice... A girl asked for a consultation - not for the first time, so she knew exactly how I work and what results she wants to get. An important period has come in her life! It's time to develop, move on, expand the business, open new horizons!.. There are several promising and ambitious directions, but it is so difficult to choose which one you need to invest all your strength and money in now. Request for a decision, to choose from several options - one of the most common in my practice. But here it turned out not to be a matter of choice at all... With the help of metaphorical cards, we looked at 5 “promising and ambitious” options, added one - just in case - still unknown, and one more - leave everything as it is. One by one, everything fell away, except for the last one... And as they disappeared, the girl’s mood became better and better. Everything fell into place in my head, and it was as if a stone had fallen from my shoulders. And, finally, a discovery! “So I want to leave everything as it is! I like everything! I soar in it, get high, get pleasure and delight from what I do!” Where did the request come from then? And again the discovery: “It’s not me who wants to change something! My loved ones, relatives, colleagues, business partners want it... They think it’s time to develop, grow, expand the business, open horizons. .. They, not me! Lately, I’ve really stopped appreciating everything I have and what I have. And now I look at it... It’s so good! came?!” To look and see. To separate your desire from others. To understand and come to an agreement with yourself. What is the most common cause of “confusion”? I want to get married. I want to have a child. I want to get a promotion at work. I want to take a leadership position. I want a car. I want to travel. I want to earn more, etc. Sometimes a very specific person (mother, brother, distant relative, friend, colleague, boss) pushes you to want this. And sometimes behind such “I want” there may be something that is accepted, what is approved and encouraged by abstract society. This often happens: it seems that the desire is “mine”, that it is “I want”, but in reality the real desires and needs are hidden behind a huge an array of other people's expectations, opinions, beliefs, stereotypes. And for happiness, sometimes you need just a little bit - to understand yourself and see “your".