Once upon a time there was a good fellow in the world... This is how fairy tales usually begin... Or else - “a fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it...” The fairy tale is metaphorical. It was created on the basis of deep general laws, expressed in the similarity of stories and destinies. That is, archetypal. This, however, was noted by Jung, with whom, as they write, Freud disagreed, but in fact, probably in vain. After all, by analyzing fairy tales - archetypes and comparing them with the stories of living people, it is quite possible to find in them the relationships between children and parents indicated by them - the stern figures of father and mother, the images of which, in my opinion, are quite clearly visible under the masks of Baba Yaga, Koshchei the Immortal, the Villain - Chernomor and, of course, the Snake - Gorynych, which will be discussed further... Fairy tales also begin with a meeting - a young man with a girl. Ivan (usually a fool, of course) and Vasilisa the Wise. And, as usual in such cases, things are moving towards the wedding, but bad luck - the Villain steals the Red Maiden at the most crucial moment. The girl, we note, is not simple - she is a jack of all trades, sometimes even capable of creating living swans from bird bones. And then - the Well done has to go on a Long Journey in search of his betrothed, and the Maiden in the kingdom of Koshcheev (or the Serpent) - tempting with wealth, to get married The villain is wooing. The villain, of course, is old. The girl is in no way - and the Tormentor often puts her to sleep with his spell. But the Good Man still needs to get to him and pass more than one test. Where does the meeting of heroes actually take place? It seems like this is a tall tale?! - Not at all. Every time every couple creates a relationship, the same story unfolds and ancient archetypes from the depths of the id (unconscious) awaken to life. In our own way, of course, with our own individual masks-roles, but the same in essence... The fairy tale unfolds within ourselves, in the field of the psyche and body. And the old man - Koschey here is a more than real face - this is the entire experience of the male half of the clan, invested in the bride, crystallized in the figure of the father's rules, which immediately begin their battle through the lips and actions of the girl - how to live correctly, how to act, what is needed, what useful, and what is not, and their strength is intentional. It’s not for nothing that the Serpent’s severed heads grow back again and again. And a very real battle begins between Ivan (Vadim, Mikhail, Peter, Sergei, etc.) with... his beloved wife? - Of course not. With the One who speaks through her lips and tries to seize the championship. Who's the man in the house? - there is a debate about this... The newly made husband or the male half of his woman... Which side is Virgo on? – I want to ask. In a fairy tale - on the side of the Beloved. In life - not always. Not always because not every woman there, within herself, is able to draw the boundary between Herself, Vasilisa – Creative Love, and her father’s covenants and promises. – It’s not for nothing that the villain puts the Maiden to sleep with his spell. And if her vigilance falls asleep, if she forgets Love, then through her white body, through her sugar lips, the Snake begins to speak... And to achieve his goal. And his task, it’s clear, is to ruin the young man. After all, he is a different kind of man - a stranger, a lapotnik, a hillbilly. He can’t do anything correctly, he’s a weakling, etc. And the Good Man faces a difficult task. From a fool to becoming a Tsarevich. But this is why he needs all the alterations that the fairy tale tells about. – Before the Force – to stand, not to break, not to run away; to deception, enchantment, temptation - do not succumb, do not become a money changer-trader in a relationship with your Beloved - you tell me, I tell you; and not to speculate cunningly, but by deed, by external and internal action, to find that key, that needle - where Koschey’s death is. In a real relationship, a growing man will have to go through more than one battle with a woman (or rather, with her transmitted foundations) in order to become strong and wise. After all, if you are just strong, but a fool; it would be better if he were weak... I would like to note especially for those ladies who are looking for successful men for relationships - eagles do not fly from their parents' nest. As for men who dream of getting a willing, submissive wife - submissive does not mean loving. Sometimes submissive is just sleeping. A.