What do people do when they don’t want to continue a relationship with this or that person? Everything is different. One begins to avoid, figuratively speaking, “crossing to the opposite street”; another will speak frankly about it. But if you can’t avoid it, and talking openly is either scary (what if you hear back about your mistakes) or unnecessary (this is the case when you need to leave communication with your head held high), then you can become demonstratively offended. There are a lot of psychological benefits to this! The most basic thing is that you are unequivocally and categorically right. And this, you see, is quite a lot. Moreover, the attempts of the person in whose direction the “offense is thrown” to talk and sort things out are read as confirmation, again, of their own rightness. This convenient form of resentment is often used in their manipulative arsenal by those for whom a frank heart-to-heart conversation with acceptance of their share of responsibility for what is happening is not suitable. For example, parents who are proud of the fact that, for “humane” reasons, never raise a hand at a child or shout, but from time to time they are pedagogically offended, demonstrating their coldness and rejection. Or a person occupying a certain status position, realizing that his authority and charisma are not enough to promote various ideas, can use “offense” to get the desired behavior from his subordinates. The fear of being incompetent in certain life circumstances, the reluctance to admit one’s mistakes, and in fact, not allowing oneself to be an ordinary living person, forces one to wear the mask of “Always the right person”, and if others doubt such correctness, take out the mask of “Resentment” ", fencing off people who depend on them with a fence, forcing people to change their behavior in the necessary direction, or rather, to play along in the game “I’m always right!” But... this is just a game... Another interesting type of resentment can “help” those who really want to “whiten” themselves and get rid of the feeling of guilt they feel before someone. For example, you committed an unseemly act towards someone, and not just any person, but a close one. Getting rid of him by simply “throwing him out” of your own life is somehow neither comme il faut nor noble, so it would be good to remember what you could find fault with and be offended by convincing yourself first of all that such a terrible and treacherous person deserves the strongest censure others and rejection! And it would be nice to find a couple of comrades to whom you could tell about your many years of suffering next to this disguised monster and your “miraculous” liberation. And that’s all!.. From this moment, you can begin to live a new free life, “fairly” ignoring this “traitor”, avoiding communication in every possible way. And it doesn’t matter at all that this “outcast” is left alone with his thoughts, “floundering” in an imposed sense of guilt, conducting endless conversations with himself, trying to find and understand that “wrongness” of his, which served as the impetus for such strong life changes. It’s convenient, you’ll agree... I can’t say that the feeling of resentment is 100% a negative experience. Not at all! Resentment can serve as a litmus test in a relationship, giving it time to rethink it. But...If this is really a feeling of resentment, and not a GAME of the “Offended Man”, a kind of proud person hiding behind masks, afraid of open uncomfortable conversations.