The past is part of our life, these are our lessons and experiences, our “rake” that we step on more than once and our memories that cause us various emotions and, as a rule, great some of them are negative and we again experience and experience pain, guilt, resentment, feelings of regret, loss, hatred, etc. Experiencing all these feelings of the past, we do not live in the present and are afraid of the future. Why is it so difficult to let it go and live to its full potential??? How can we forgive all those grievances that sit deep in our souls??? How can you help yourself in this situation??? It is necessary to understand that we ourselves are responsible for the past. Ask yourself why we allowed ourselves to be treated like this??? It is necessary to live all those feelings and emotions, and not suppress them in yourself, thereby putting an emotional block in yourself; Accept the past and understand that it is impossible to change it; Find your grievances, name them, understand who it is to and express / express everything according to about this, so that the internal poison comes out. Tell your closest person about your pain, write down all the negative memories in a notebook for 1-2 weeks, and then burn it or consult a psychologist, but do not hold back your experiences and emotions; Forgive yourself for everything and those who offended you. Free yourself from the feelings that destroy you and then a feeling of lightness and freedom will come; Start working with your body, because... it stores all unlived emotions. Sign up for a massage, acupuncture (I personally recommend it, I’m taking the second course and it helps a lot), a gym, a swimming pool, do meditation, etc. Perform rituals of letting go and cleansing your space (my article “A mess in the house is a mess in life” can help) https://www.b17.ru/blog/322799/); Constantly check your condition, listen to what you want and what you feel. Learn to understand your feelings and be aware of your desires. Based on this, build your future plans. You can use mindfulness practices to help, for example, when you are in nature, close your eyes and listen carefully to what is happening around you. You will be surprised how many unfamiliar sounds you will hear. Try to isolate each individual sound, determine its source and where it comes from. At this moment you live exactly here and now. And you realize this.; Take up an interesting activity, a new hobby and replenish your treasury of good deeds; Take the past as a fact of memory, it simply exists and do not cling to it and thank it for its wisdom; Never regret or scold yourself for the past; Appreciate those people who is next to you now and break off old unnecessary relationships; Change your way of thinking (my article “How to gain new thinking and overcome the crisis” https://www.b17.ru/article/365445/ can help); Dale Carnegie: “The first and most important thing a person should know about anxiety is that in order to crowd out anxiety from your life, you must make every effort to distinguish between the past and the future.” Be happy and enjoy today. It's time to understand that you are here and now. You are neither in the past nor in the future! If the article was useful and interesting for you, do not forget to click “thank you”, leave a comment, and also subscribe so as not to miss my new articles. Anna, psychologist-consultant: WhatsApp / Telegram: [email protected]