Building a romantic relationship is always a very difficult and lengthy process. But sometimes, already at the dating stage, it is possible to determine that this relationship will not be harmonious and will not bring happiness to the girl. We will not now consider reasons that may be in the girl herself (for example, a tendency to jealousy and suspicion, regardless of the guy with whom she builds a relationship) or in the situation and circumstances itself. And we’ll talk about the types of men with whom healthy relationships cannot be built, who should be avoided if the roads are nervous and personal peace of mind. I will argue not so much as a psychologist, but as a girl with a certain life experience. Today in our studio there is a Guy Suffering from an Ex. For brevity, let's call it PSPB. This type is quite common. It doesn’t matter how long ago his relationship with The Same ended. It doesn’t matter how many relationships he had after The One. He is always with her in soul, heart and mind. She is the light in the window. Moreover, both an overly positive attitude and an overly negative one can be maintained towards her. For example, she was so wonderful, so beautiful, but for some reason she decided to break up with her boyfriend. Then, when he didn’t want it, he wasn’t ready for it. All. Now she is the standard for him. All subsequent girls are regularly compared to her (to themselves or even out loud). Alas, the rest of the girls most often lose by most criteria. And also, they usually have to listen to how PSPB was happy with the Same One. Here they kissed for the first time, in this cafe he gave her a beautiful pendant for her birthday, on this day a year ago he scored a goal for his baseball team and dedicated the victory to her... So it turns out that in relationships there is always a third wheel looming like a ghost .It may be the other way around. The ex-girlfriend offended PSPB very much (cheated on her, betrayed her), and now he simply hates her. From time to time she discharges angry tirades in the spirit of “Wow, she’s so hot!”, “Yes, I would never, never would have contacted her if I knew!”, “Yes, I would tell her this right now.” !” And it happens that these two polarities are wonderfully combined, and the guy maneuvers from one state to another. In any case, too strong emotions towards the ex-girlfriend are a clear sign that for the guy the relationship is not over emotionally, that he is not I’m ready to make a place in my heart for another girl. PSPB is good because it doesn’t really hide its essence. Maybe he would like to, but it doesn’t work out. Frequent conversations about an ex-girlfriend (in any manner) are an alarming bell. And in other aspects, this guy can be very good. Then the question arises, can it be fixed? Help me get over a breakup, forget my ex-girlfriend? Actually, it’s possible. A strong emotional reaction signals that the situation with your ex-girlfriend has not yet been resolved. The resentment, anger have not yet been responded to, the realization has not yet dawned that the relationship is actually over, etc. The guy has every chance to free himself from the pressure of the image of the One and let new love into his heart. There's just one caveat. Dear girls, leave this matter to professional psychologists. And pay attention to the guy who is already open to a relationship with you. No, no, we won’t blame PSPB. We will understand it. Let us wish you to find harmony in your soul. But still, let’s not waste our emotional resources on him..