From the author: Psychotherapist, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league (Moscow), expert on television programs, sexologist, educational psychologist, NLP master, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach. The topic of online dating is very popular. Nowadays, many people meet through the Internet. This is quite an easy and simple method compared to others. Let me note that there are as many opinions as there are people. You yourself have probably heard different opinions on this matter. If you approach this topic from the point of view of a psychologist or sexologist, then I would say the following. It is impossible to clearly determine whether this is good or bad, whether there is a chance or hopeless, since in this situation much depends on the person himself. In this regard, I will tell you about my work with a woman from Moscow to solve the problems of her unsettled personal life. It was interesting that she had been trying to meet people on the Internet for about 15 years, posting her profile on dating sites, but her personal life was still unsettled. Next, we reached her conviction regarding online dating: “Who can you find here? , well, everyone is unlucky, there are no normal men at all.” And if we take into account one important point, that in our life what is in our head is embodied, then this very problem was embodied in her life. She met men, but these acquaintances only confirmed that there are only unlucky ones there: they can deceive, etc. .d. She found herself in some strange situations: a large sum was withdrawn from her phone; then the men turned out to be gigolos; they simply promised “mountains of gold” and disappeared. I would like to draw a small conclusion from the above. Dear readers, decide for yourself who you are looking for on the Internet on dating sites - this is the man who will make you happy, with whom you can start a family, or this is... (and how would you finish this phrase for yourself). If you say that I am looking for the positive, but only one comes across... . Isn't it time to do something about it? Or we will continue to solve a problem that is unsolvable for ourselves. Well, when something has become clear, I want to continue using the example of my work as a psychotherapist in Voronezh. I worked with a client on a slightly different, but overlapping problem. This was my client, a 27-year-old girl. She turned to me to resolve her condition after love experiences. She had been in love with a guy for a long time, found him via the Internet and they began a correspondence, which was more of a friendly nature on his part. When she hinted to him that she was interested in him. He said that they can only be friends because he has a girlfriend whom he loves. The client came to me in a state of deep emotions. After two hours of psychotherapeutic appointment, I was able to adequately normalize her condition. But the most important result of our work was the following: if at the beginning she wanted to return him, to bring him closer to herself by doing something incredible, then at the end of the work, unexpectedly for herself, she said: “Do I need him at all? Is this the right person? I now began to understand that he and I are completely different. And why am I so fixated on him?” And I would also like to say general information for all women who meet via the Internet. If you understand your message: “why am I going online dating, who do I want to find there?” This is, of course, one of the important aspects so that you do not embody the problem in life and do not go towards it. But the second is no less important - first remove your problem state. Try to evaluate yourself first. You know yourself, determine who you are now, analyze your pros and cons, obstacles along the way, and start changing. After all, for your negative state, there may be a similar person, in accordance with the principle “details attract like.” If you don’t know what you need to become happy in family life, you can look at this from the example of your friends. If you have examples of successful marriages, then after analyzing, you can understand what you personally need to add or remove,!