From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert on television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, master of NLP, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, as you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia.” It’s worth starting with the fact that such a problem as the fear of sexual misfire quite often torments all men in general, but it is especially typical for men with ATS (anxious expectation of sexual failure syndrome). And you know, I want to tell you a secret, based on my practice as a sexologist, psychotherapist and family psychologist, that men with STOSN are not so bad, and they make quite decent partners, gentle and affectionate lovers for women whose need for sex is low , or it is not there at all. This can be considered as a kind of frigidity and anorgasmia, or, for example, when there are some sexual blocks and obstacles, and somehow it doesn’t come to sex. At the same time, when it is problematic for a woman, and she gets an orgasm only from stimulation of the clitoris or through oral sex. The secret here is that, for example, unlike some of their opposite, men with a strong sexual constitution, who are characterized by such a male sexual problem as premature ejaculation, and who are more fixated on themselves (getting pleasure for themselves), men are anxious and suspicious Quite often they try to excite a woman and arrange long-term foreplay. They are quite suitable for those partners for whom sex is not in the first place, and who can be content with the erotic phase of the relationship, which does not always lead to sex. Based on my extensive practice as a sexologist, psychotherapist and family psychologist, I note that such girls are also not uncommon. I even tracked some statistics for myself: for every man who contacts me, there are on average 3 women with their own sexual female problems, among which in the first place is such difficulty as reluctance to have sex, lack of libido, or the problem of vaginismus, as well as pain during sex of unknown etiology. For example, I recently had a client from Moscow who highlighted the following point: sex is not as important to her as the fact that she excites men and arouses sexual desire in them, and they look at her with lust. And when she goes out during her working hours into a space where there are a lot of men, then: “they just turn their heads at me, and this is already tantamount to an orgasm for me, and I don’t want anything else, including my constant sexual partner." So, as they say: each merchant has his own demand. And if a couple is satisfied with such sex, some semblance of sex, perhaps even the absence of it, or some kind of surrogate in the form of mutual masturbation, then it is theirs. It’s a personal matter. And it’s probably not worth seeing some kind of sexual male, female or family problem in everything. Well, after such “sexual foreplay”, I think it’s worth telling what the sexual problem of my client, a man from Moscow, was. who was about 30 years old. This difficulty concerned a sexual misfire. The reason for this was the particular nervousness of the young man, and here we had to correct the general background of the guy so that he would get a calmer and more even state for himself. Further, my client’s excessive touchiness appeared. Here, perhaps, it is worth noting that the male psyche is more shaky and susceptible in terms of some kind of sexual remarks from girls, which can cause not only.