For many parents, a child’s adolescence is a period when sedatives stop working, just like any words addressed to a teenager. Every word I say is turned upside down and received with hostility. It is impossible to communicate! - Any word you say is perceived as an accusation, and you feel resistance?! - Yes, terrible resistance! - This is partly normal for this age. It can be worse when a teenager agrees with you and shares your point of view in everything. - Why is this? By the age of 12, a teenager has long understood everything about his place in the family and your opinion about him. - *Click*... Everything is clear ! I could have said right away....Usually, it is precisely with these formulations that a child at this age appeals, while the natural desire to have his own opinion intensifies to the limit. In adolescence, it is catastrophically important for a child to decide on his values ​​and personal opinion. And through this, find your place in a group of fellow tribesmen. This is a dominant and an axiom! At this point, it is useful to consider resistance to a parent as an opportunity to jump off your opinion with both feet and bring yourself closer to your personal opinion, which is an entrance ticket to a group of peers, and in the future a necessary quality for an adult. - Why do teenagers act insolently at home? Because it’s safer to do it at home than anywhere else. Teenagers know that in the end, their parents will forgive, they will allow them to visit, they will give them money and buy them sneakers. “Mom will scream and calm down!” In this sense, it is safer for you to be insolent, although threats, frankly speaking, can be “life-destructive.” I would not like to do this here I can completely reassure you that any “swearing” is NORMAL. This is not so! But understanding the MOTIVE of this “scolding” significantly lightens the load on the parent’s nervous system. On the contrary, if the conditional “scolding” did not happen in your relationship with a teenager, this is also not a condition for relaxation. It is useful to understand what happens with the formation of a child’s opinion and why he does not defend it first in a safer group - the family, and then in other groups outside the family? At the parents' club we consider the dominants of children of different ages. We analyze possible models of behavior in response to one or another dominant. This is very useful for family relationships.