ORIGINS OF CHILDREN'S AGGRESSIVENESS In the previous article, we examined the features of the manifestation of aggressiveness in children and adolescents (https://www.b17.ru/article/12955/). Now let’s try to figure it out - where does aggressiveness come from, what are its sources? This is by no means a simple question. There is still debate in scientific circles about the nature of aggressiveness. Some authors believe that individual manifestations of aggression are 50% due to genetic factors. But the vast majority of psychologists believe that social learning theory is legitimate. They recognize a certain role of heredity, but they look for the main reasons in the conditions of the child’s social environment, primarily in the characteristics of family upbringing. Three main psychological sources of destructive behavior can be identified: a feeling of fear, distrust of the world around them; the child’s encounter with non-fulfillment of his desires, prohibitions on satisfying certain needs; defending one's personal boundaries, territory, gaining independence and independence. Usually a basic sense of trust in the world and people, a sense of security is formed by the first year of a child's life. Its formation is influenced by many reasons. First of all, this is the mental state of the mother during pregnancy and after childbirth. If the expectant mother constantly experiences anxiety, fear of tomorrow, these feelings are transmitted to the child, and he is born without basic confidence in the safety of the world, his first experience of interacting with the environment suggests that it is not safe here, there is a lot of unpredictability. In the future, this develops into distrust of everyone and everything; any manifestation from the outside can mean an attack. Aggressive outbursts in such children look very unexpected and incomprehensible. To a large extent, the formation of an attitude towards the world is influenced by the parents’ expression of unconditional love for the child, or the lack thereof. If loved ones showed sincere love for their baby in any situation, if the child understood that, no matter what, they loved him, then he developed a sense of trust in others. If a child becomes convinced that he is not loved, or even hated, he may become embittered and begin to take revenge. Many thrillers about murderous maniacs are built on this, where, delving into his past, they discover a downtrodden, despised, humiliated child. Maternal deprivation is another factor in the development of aggressive behavior. Research shows that most aggressive children at a very early age were separated from their mothers for a long time for various reasons. Frustration of the needs for parental affection, love, care leads to the development of feelings of hostility. G.E. Breslav identifies four motives for aggressive behavior in children: the desire to attract the attention of peers; the desire to get the desired result; the desire to be in charge; protection and revenge; the desire to infringe on the dignity of another in order to emphasize one’s superiority. Many experts believe that one of the main reasons for the appearance of aggressiveness is the shortcomings of family upbringing. So, Lichko A.E. identifies 4 situations in the family that contribute to the formation of aggressive and deviant behavior in children and adolescents: 1) overprotection: from the desire to be an accomplice in all manifestations of the inner life of children (his thoughts, feelings, behavior) to family tyranny; 2) hypoprotection, often turning into neglect ;3) upbringing according to the type of “idol” of the family - constant attention to every step and desire of the child and excessive praise for very modest successes; 4) a situation that creates “Cinderellas” in a family where parents pay a lot of attention to themselves and little to their children. With a liberal parenting style, parents hardly regulate the child’s behavior. The absence of any restrictions leads to disobedience, aggressiveness, and impulsiveness. If connivance is accompanied by open hostility of the parents, nothing holds the child back from giving free rein to the most destructive impulses. With a rejecting parenting style, parents demonstrate obvious or hidden rejection, 1997.