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Defense mechanisms of the psyche is a topic that is often forgotten. At the same time, it is with them that we work in therapy and change them so that our personality becomes more adaptive, and we receive comfort from the life we ​​live. In fact, when you are faced with the fact that some event is unbearable for you, something negative is repeated in your life, you are faced with the fact that the defense mechanisms of your psyche are not working adequately. In terms of defense mechanisms, a schizoid personality is a person which is closest to the beginning of the development of our psyche, since it uses mechanisms that we find in infants. And babies work with reality, not with themselves in this world. This means that the baby will not change his attitude towards the object that makes him angry. Will not study it, accept it and use it as needed or desired, where possible. He classifies it entirely as bad and, for example, excludes it from his field of vision, even if it could be useful. I have encountered cases where clients, talking about someone, honestly admitted that the person seemed to become different when he did something that scared or angered him. And the clients could not unite one person into a single image. So what kind of defense mechanisms will we find in a schizoid personality. Definitely splitting. In addition, projection, merging with other people, projective identification. Separately, we talked about omnipotence, idealization and devaluation when we talked about the narcissistically compensated schizoid (watch the video on the channel). When we talk about the schizoid personality, we talk about Kernberg’s classification. He classified such a person as a borderline personality. Borderlines have trouble tolerating stressful situations. That is, they cannot stand their own fear or anger and begin to react with primitive defenses in order to remove their emotion. A woman who is unconsciously afraid of being rejected because she is not (in her opinion) good enough, in a stressful situation for herself (for example, her partner does not respond to a message) concludes that her partner is bad and should not date him. At the same time, she is not interested in what happened in her partner’s life and how adequate her demands are. At the same time, she may even stop communicating completely so as not to face her fear. And, of course, he has problems with relationships. In a stressful situation, a schizoid often resorts to the most primitive splitting. He goes into his own, sometimes altered, consciousness. And in his altered consciousness, he indulges in fantasies that help him cope with the situation. For example, a woman may make it up that her cheating partner is doing it because he is being “controlled” by the other woman. Or a man imagines how he punishes his offender. And after dreaming for a while, he returns to this world in a great mood. In fact, such protection appears in a child at a very early stage of life. Since he is completely defenseless, stress can only be overcome by disconnecting from the world. Go to reality, where everything is perfect and good. Nursing is used in the most difficult situations by all people. We are talking about disasters, force majeure and so on. But when a person leaves in a situation that can be changed, of course, it does not contribute to the emergence of his own comfort. The next defense of a schizoid is projection. There's a lot to project here. In the video about schizoids and narcissistically compensated schizoids, I talked a lot about the unmet needs of the schizoid. The ban on satisfying needs and desires is established by the individual himself. Anger and anger are emotions that signal to us that something is going wrong. We're not getting something. If we have forbidden ourselves to receive everything, then our anger is enormous. But our psyche protects us from realizing the degree of our own anger. Because a schizoid, having realized his own anger, will be faced with the question of its causes. The reason is a ban on satisfying one’s own needs that are not satisfied in order to be comfortable for a partner or loved one.