When you lose a loved one, have the courage and let him go...Noah Calhoun Any loss is an unpleasant occurrence, be it a wallet, a job, a relationship, a person. Sometimes it seems that the world has turned upside down, a stable life has ended and there is no way out in sight. But time passes, putting some things in their places, sometimes surprising us with their unpredictability. This is the other side of losses - we learn something, gain new experience, change habitual thinking patterns and vision of the world, accumulate knowledge and wisdom. And after some time we can conclude that the loss was necessary and useful, we find many advantages and positive aspects. Tragic events also bring moments of positive change, but people do not want to notice them, because it is too painful to see what is in reality. For example, in many families, after the death of one of their ancestors, relatives begin to communicate with each other as never before. This illustrates that loss, even the most traumatic one, carries a double message - sadness and joy at the same time, which is why it is perceived very ambiguously. Here, for example, are the statements of my clients: - “When my husband left me for God, it became somehow easier.” - “Mom got married, and I was very upset. But it was from that day that my happy life began.” “After the divorce, I was depressed for several months. I was left alone, and free from a difficult relationship, so I met my fate.” - “My daughter went to study in another city. I resisted for a long time, but then I realized that I needed it too. Relations with my husband improved when my daughter began to live on her own.” “My father left the family for another woman. I hated him wildly, but then I became friends with his new family, with his wife, and later she saved me from death.” This happens in life, and every loss, even the most tragic, carries with it something that we still have to recognize and see, realize and feel, accept and rejoice! The article was copied from my website - http://sem-psiholog.ru/