Irritation and anger are companions in the life of any person. It is probably impossible to do without them. However, if these emotions overwhelm a person often and for any reason, even the most insignificant, then they can complicate his life quite seriously. I think it would be superfluous to remind you that they negatively affect your health. And also that their manifestation complicates relationships with others, leads to conflicts with them, interferes with mutual understanding and constructive interaction. For those who are aware of these negative consequences of anger and irritability, I suggest taking 4 steps to find harmony with your inner experiences and become calmer and more balanced people. Step 1. An objective look at the manifestation of anger and irritation. I think it’s worth starting with the fact that dialogue with another person when you are angry does not bring anything positive for both of you. In addition to the fact that the very fact of showing verbal aggression towards another leads to a deterioration in relationships, in fits of anger people often say to each other what they don’t really think. Out of resentment, out of anger, sometimes you want to offend a person in return, to hurt him with words as much as he did. Often in such situations, people cross boundaries and undermine relationships. Moreover, when we are angry, when we shout, insult, scold another, he does not hear anything constructive in our words. He perceives more how we speak than what exactly we say. Therefore, appeals to common sense, logic, and constructiveness turn out to be useless, flying past the opponent’s ears. Among other things, our aggression, our attacks, force a person to take a defensive position. He is forced to defend himself, looking for counterarguments, or moving on to a counterattack in the same context of aggression and anger. If you often show anger towards the same person, over time he gets used to your emotional attacks, he develops “immunity” to them ", and he simply stops reacting to them. Summarizing what has been said, it is obvious that the manifestation of anger and irritation does not carry anything positive either for you personally or for correcting the situation as a whole. While the negative consequences of emotional incontinence are obvious. In order to rid yourself of such a trait as the manifestation of anger, to reduce the general level of your irritability, you have to carry out long and difficult work on yourself and your behavior, and even change your way of life in some way . Step 2. Analysis of factors that cause irritation and anger First, you need to analyze what exactly causes irritation and anger in you: certain events, facts, circumstances, people... Immerse yourself in your memories, write down everything you remember on a piece of paper. Try to group them according to certain criteria. For example, you can identify situations in which the people around you: - show you disrespect - show you disregard for your interests, desires, needs - show misunderstanding - disagree with your opinion, insist on their own - express their distrust of you - insult, threaten, etc. etc. The facts that irritate you may not be related to people. Yes, sometimes people get angry and irritated by inanimate objects: a computer that fails at a crucial moment, a car that won’t start in the cold, etc. The more detailed you understand the situations that cause you irritation and anger, the easier it will be for you will continue to control his emotional state, work on himself in terms of analyzing traumatic situations, and therefore get rid of these sharp emotional outbursts. You will find the next two steps from irritability to calmness in the following articles: Step 3. “Debriefing.” It is available here. Step 4. “Fitness” for nerves. You will find it here. And this series ends with the article “How to cope with anger. How to stop an attack of anger." You will find her.