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Living together is a labor-intensive and interesting process. How often do we hear stories about how a newly minted couple, for whom everything seemed to start out well, broke up miserably. What prevents people from staying together and living next to their loved one in both sorrow and joy. Let's start from the beginning. What drives us in the first minutes of falling in love... Passion, emotions, chemistry.. We analyze the situation little and understand its consequences. After some time passions subside - this is an inevitable development of events. We begin to look at our chosen one with more sober eyes, more critically and meticulously. First there is a process of grinding in, lovers must get used to each other. This is especially obvious at the very beginning of life together. At this stage, it is important not to make a mistake, not to start demanding a lot and sometimes the impossible. We should treat each other more tolerantly and calmly. Take all annoying shortcomings of your partner with humor. Do not try to change anyone, in turn, trying to please the other person. Treat the habits and characteristics of your loved one with respect and tenderness. Be more tolerant. After all the blatant habits of your partner have stopped annoying you, as a rule, a situation of habit and boredom arises. Emotions subside, and even emotions of irritation, which usually turned into stormy reconciliation, no longer bother you with the same frequency as before. And This is where the most important family happiness begins, which needs to be protected and developed. As you know, any family happiness rests on the woman. No one belittles the responsibility of men. But a woman is, after all, the keeper of the hearth. Therefore, below are some basic tips for women who strive for strong family happiness: Look after yourself. Engage in self-development. Be interesting. Be beautiful. Have your own little secrets and interests, but try, so that they do not overlap with your common ones. Bring something new into your relationship. Demand the same from your partner. In conclusion, I would like to introduce you to one of the theories that describes the relationship between partners. This is the so-called “filter theory” (you can read more about it in the work of L.Ya. Gozman, “Psychology of Emotional Relationships”). It says that information about the person we are interested in goes through three filters. The first filter is the easiest to pass, since in it we consider the person as a bearer of some qualities (appearance, character traits, behavior). Having passed the first filter, we look for ways to get closer to the person in order to subject him to the test of the second filter. This is a similarity filter. For him, it is important to engage in joint activities, coincidence in interests, worldview and pastime, as well as the possibility of mutually complementing each other’s partners. Having passed this filter, the partners will become very attractive to each other, because they can spend some great time together, but there comes a point role delineation. This is the third filter - the role matching filter. And this is where problems usually begin. This filter contains our opinion about how our partner should play the role of lover/mistress, the role of boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, father/mother, etc., what his responsibilities and behavior are. After reading this article, you began to know more about your relationship with your partner. And we sincerely hope that this knowledge will be truly useful to you. Sincerely, http://2marins.ru/