From the author: this article can be read in the magazine "Wedding March" The psychology of relationships between men and women is one of the most popular. Despite this, many couples are confused about their relationship. We decided to give the best practical advice developed in our time. To do this, we have brought together the Western and Russian experience of two authoritative psychologists: an American pastor, author of radio and TV programs, books and seminars on family life, Mark Gangor, and a practical psychologist, mediator, business coach and head of the Ideal center, Svetlana Ivanova. A Tale of Two BrainsMark Gungor: “Men’s brains are unique. They are made from small boxes. We have our own box for everything. For a car, for money, for work for you, for children, for your mother... And there is also a rule: boxes should not touch each other. When we discuss an issue, we find that particular box, open it, and discuss only what is in it. And then we close it and put it in place so that it does not touch other boxes. A woman’s brain is a big tangle of wires. Everything is connected to everything there. Money is connected to the car, the car is connected to your work, the children are connected to your mother, everything is connected to everything. Very similar to high speed internet. And all this is controlled by energy called “emotions.” Svetlana Ivanova: “A very original comparison, but, in fact, the pure truth. Men are truly single-taskers because they were initially results-oriented. For example, catch up and kill a mammoth. Being distracted during such an action is not entirely logical. But seriously, you need to understand that nature made us different, based on the tasks that were needed for survival. And if girls remembered that mammoth, they would more rationally use male abilities for their own benefit. Men can do a lot, but it’s first come, first served.” The “Nothing” Box Mark Gungor: “There is a box in men’s brains that most women don’t even know exists. There's nothing in this box! It's called "The Box About Nothing." And of all the man’s boxes, this is his favorite. If he could, he would sit in this box all day. That's why we go fishing, sit mindlessly in front of the TV. The University of Pennsylvania conducted a study showing that men have the ability to think about absolutely nothing and still breathe. Women can't do that. Their brain never stops working. And they don’t understand “The Box About Nothing.” Nothing irritates them more than the sight of a man who does nothing. The biggest discovery that women make for themselves at my seminars is the “Box of Nothing.” Svetlana Ivanova: “I completely agree. In my classes at the School of Flirting, I call this “withdrawing into yourself.” But when you start explaining to the ladies what it looks like and, most importantly, why it is needed, a “brain explosion” occurs... in women. A man really needs to think through his thoughts and problems in peace and quiet. This is difficult for a woman to understand because we are more emotional.” Beware of stress! Mark Gungor: “When a man is stressed, all he wants to do is close himself in the “Nothing” Box.” This is how it cools down. During times of stress, the thing we don't want to talk about most is talking about it. But this drives you crazy. Seeing a man in a vegetable state, a woman approaches him and asks: “What are you thinking about?” Let him lock himself in the “Nothing Box.” When a woman goes through stress, she should talk about it. Otherwise her brain will “explode.” I know men who run away from their wives in this state. They don't know what to tell them. A man feels obligated to “fix” you. A man will tell another man about his problems only if in return he helps him solve them. But your wife doesn't need your advice. She just needs you to listen to her. A man and a woman offer each other their own experience, their own solution. But they don’t realize that this is not suitable for their other half.” Svetlana Ivanova: “Indeed, many problems in the family could have been avoided».