Who doesn’t get annoyed by manipulation? That’s right, the one who manipulates himself. Being an object or a witness is extremely disgusting. There are different types of manipulation and they are part of life. Like envy, jealousy, addiction, anger or something else, they mostly have a negative connotation in our heads. I will tell a story about just such a case. Here I am watching how a nanny or grandmother tells a child - get dressed, let’s go for a walk. He struggles, doesn’t want to get dressed and stands giggling in the corner. Further text from the same nanny/grandmother - well then I’ll go, bye. And it would be good if she left, but she is waiting for a reaction - for the baby to rush to get dressed, just don’t leave. I feel a nasty feeling when I’m nearby. What does this adult woman say to the baby? - I was offended and left - I’m leaving because you don’t do what I ask, you don’t listen - you don’t want me to leave - then get dressed In general, everything is not direct, not obvious, but between the lines - disgusting. Because it frightens, appeals to some feelings, is irrelevant and out of place, and you generally don’t know how to behave. Most often, we manipulate out of our own powerlessness and fear. Fear of hearing refusal, fear of facing aggression, fear of being rejected. In general, we were taught to get in roundabout ways what could not be obtained directly. Our mother was offended at us and showed us that this was the best way to force the child to do what she needed. The Pope ignored and rejected, instead of simply being indignant at the deuce, instead of anger and in general. But this is a simple trick for a manipulator - he gets offended, blames and gets the desired result. The direct path is shorter, but more difficult. Because: you need to explain directly to yourself, meet and withstand the reaction of the other, and, probably, withstand the refusal. Then digest it all. It’s costly in both time and effort, to say the least. But only at the beginning, when you gradually try, you believe that in reality it turns out to be not so difficult. And, of course, this does not always work out.