At a recent training, the teacher suggested a wonderful exercise for working with self-esteem with children (primary school age and teenagers). Exercise “My hand” Outline your hand, as we did this in childhood, and I will outline mine on my sheet (after the hand has been outlined). Every person has character qualities, or abilities, that help him in difficult life situations. You've already encountered these. Remember what qualities you have, and this is a question to answer “Which?”, or skills that you value in yourself. (If a child finds it difficult: why do your friends, teachers, parents praise you?) I’ll tell you a little story now, and you try to guess why I told it to you and how it relates to your hand? (story of the parable “Everything is in your hands”).4. You know, when I find myself in a situation that I don’t know what to do, or I give up, I don’t believe that I can cope, then I look inside myself and remember this palm. I tell myself “Stop! But I’m smart, I’m kind, I’m friendly... That means I have something to rely on, because it’s all in my hands. So, I’ll think about it now and find a way out.” It helps me. Perhaps it will help you too. You just need to write “I” into your palm. And then everything is definitely in your hands... It’s so arranged (many psychologists will confirm this!) that as soon as one of the tools appears, then the little person for whom you found it immediately appears. The boy came with his mother. 10 years. The first technique is establishing contact, developing a request. There was a place for exercise. The boy was able to name only 2 (!) qualities and told me that he is kind and independent. I had to call my mother for help. Imagine his amazement when his mother listed so many things that there weren’t even enough fingers! And he also turned out to be: caring, attentive, artistic, brave, talented. The boy just looked at his mother in surprise and muttered: “Yes? Am I like that? And you didn’t tell me...” Mom and I then talked together. The first consultation turned out to be a change of faces: first with the boy, then together, then only with the mother. They talked about the peculiarities of this age, about the plan for working with the boy, about the need for her to communicate with a psychologist. The consultation came to an end... They left together. In the full sense of the word. And this is just the beginning! Psychologist Nikulina Marina Aleksandrovnaphone: Telegram, WhatsApp +7 (921) 633-46-86, Skype: marinanikulina9 Take care of yourself and your loved ones! You can sign up for a consultation here