Dear readers, using my short story as an example, I want to tell you how cognitive behavioral therapy works in action. This story could be replaced by any other. Our brain is very lazy and does not like to “do” unnecessary, new work. Let me give you a simple example: My husband bought a bottle of milk for home. And it is a non-standard size - 2 liters. I would be glad that my caring husband bought a large volume at once, but that was not the case... The following thoughts immediately come to mind: - why such a large volume, the milk will spoil, we won’t have time to drink it? - how will I store such a bottle in the refrigerator? -I can’t stand it vertically, and if I put the bottle down, the milk may leak, the children won’t close it well, -I’ll have to take it to the balcony (it’s winter now) so that the milk doesn’t spoil, -the balcony is far from the kitchen, it’s inconvenient to walk every time. And so Based on such thoughts, a reason for grumbling at my husband is ready! So I reasoned until I opened the refrigerator and began to study locally what could be done (in the language of cognitive behavioral therapy, this is called an experiment, i.e. testing your thoughts in reality). Less than 5 seconds had passed before an empty space was discovered on the refrigerator door. A large bottle of milk fits perfectly in this space. The reason for grumbling at her husband disappeared, and in its place was only gratitude for his care. And all the thoughts that I gave above turned out to be wrong. What kind of thinking mistakes did I have: a negative filter - I saw only the disadvantages of this purchase, forecasting the future - I won’t be able to put milk in the refrigerator, it will spill and catastrophizing - everything is bad. This is how the brain deceives us - it begins to predict the future, and then the search for someone to blame begins. And if you don’t know all these tricks of the brain, then claims and conflicts in relationships are guaranteed. Do you notice how your brain is deceiving you? Share in the comments. I invite you to my consultations, where we will study thinking errors together and find out what to do about them. The result will pleasantly surprise and delight you. This will help you improve your relationships with loved ones and with yourself..