Contact in the family Very often families turn for advice, where they seem to have everything they need to be a family: a house where close people live, there is a mother, father, children, there is a stable income, a common life . But there is no thing that connects them - contact with each other, connection between them. And because of this, people in the family are like not relatives: they do not have enough time for each other, there are no common topics for conversation, there is no common family matter, there is no joy for each other. When and why does this appear - NO? When parents with children come for consultations, it is important to pay attention to the fact that children in the family are “little beacons” that give signals that something is wrong with them, but in the family there is no everything is fine. Children begin to study poorly, they develop something in their behavior that worries their parents, most often it is poor performance or aggressive behavior at school, and sometimes at home, or, on the contrary, secretiveness and tightness that causes anxiety in parents. It seems to them that the child has become unrecognizable, not the same as before. Ask yourself a question, do you recognize yourself? What's wrong with you lately, with your attitude towards your family and yourself? If there is something that we want to change in a child, we must first explore and see if it is something that would be better to change in ourselves.K. G. Jung Marital relationships influence the nature of family well-being. The marital relationship is the center around which all other family relationships are built. Spouses are the “creators” of the family. Difficult marital relationships and deterioration of contact give rise to frustration in raising children and problems of contact in the family. The child reacts to changes in the environment. If changes go in a negative direction, then the environment in which the child grows up also changes not for the better. In the flow of events and affairs, it is sometimes difficult to notice changes in relationships with each other, and sometimes you don’t want to notice it. What do you think might happen? Everything is in place, alive and well. Work, problems, that’s what comes first now and that makes me sad. And this is where problems with contact in the family begin, yes, everyone is alive and well, but the relationships that are changing are no longer so significant. Living in the future, that’s what now dominates people’s contacts, we’ll talk later, then we’ll rest, exhale, decide Let’s discuss this problem, and then this is wasted time and years. Meeting in reality now is postponed until later. But in reality there can be a lot of things, and it can be the joy of meeting a person, the joy that you have him, the happiness that you have a family, children and much more. You already have happiness, it will not come later or will begin later, learn to notice it now. There is no path to happiness, happiness is the path. Contact with yourself is the first step to contact with others. F. PerlsParents who come with their children for consultation with a psychologist take a step towards meeting the problem; it is important that not only children are the primary reason for the visit. Expanding the problems that arise, it is necessary to show that parents are also needed in counseling, and most often the main work is done with them, since the environment they create is where children grow up. In contact with each other in the family, this is important, children grow up, and they will never be like they are now, so amazing and unpredictable, you will never be able to enjoy this moment. Have time now, live now, do not put off joys, meetings, your happiness until tomorrow. Tomorrow will be completely different, not like now, it will not be repeated. The present should be enjoyed now, and not in an hour, day, week, month or even a year. This is only part of what can be in a family, a small grain, so start small, pay your attention to each other and to yourself. Love and warmth to your families.