The quality of communication affects our mood, because when communicating, we are involved in the world of the interlocutor, just as he is immersed in our thoughts and feelings. We get real pleasure from communication when we and our interlocutor have a pleasant feeling of separation and inclusion. But everything happens completely differently: there is no satisfaction from communication, a feeling of understatement remains, the mood to continue the dialogue disappears due to lack of support and involvement. What do we do wrong when communication between us goes bad? I propose to analyze several bad habits that can destroy quality communication.1. Some people often like to interrupt their interlocutor. Being able to talk is great, as is being able to listen. Inability to listen is the main reason for interruptions in dialogue. If we do not allow a person to express his thought to the end, then he will be left with the feeling that we are not interested in listening to him and that we want him to shut up as soon as possible. By interrupting a person, we deprive him of the opportunity to fully express his position. Even if your interlocutor tells this situation not for the first time, it means that it is important for him to return to it again in order to get the opportunity to look at it again from a different perspective. This is so important: to give a person the opportunity to speak out to the end and at the same time listen to him carefully. Imagine yourself in his place. You would also want this in such a situation.2. Some people like to be often distracted by their gadget. At this very moment, when you are stuck on your phone or tablet during a dialogue, your interlocutor understands only one thing - you are not listening to him at the moment. And therefore, you are not interested. Let's be honest: your life will not suffer in any way if during a conversation you do not periodically “dive headlong” into your smartphone. Therefore, the role of the gadget in your hands is predetermined - looking at it is a special way not to listen to your interlocutor under the guise of being busy, but in fact, of your boredom during a conversation. It is better to reschedule your meeting and conversation if you are not in the mood for it, than to force yourself to be an attentive and sensitive interlocutor. 3. Someone likes to draw attention to themselves. And it doesn’t matter at all how exactly you do it: pretend that everything is bad for you or brag about your constant successful successes. Another thing is important: behind the screen of pictures of your own greatness or collapse, you do not see the experiences of your loved one, but he creates (and in general, rightly) the feeling that what he wants to say is absolutely not important to you. And thus, people gradually lose interest in the process of communicating with you. Who would like a constant game of one goal? Communication is the source of our human understanding and emotional stability. If in a conversation we managed to maintain this most important balance: take - give, then we continue to successfully socialize and fill ourselves with resources. If not, then problems arise with self-esteem, confidence, and seeing oneself in the company of others. Be attentive to each other! Take care of yourself! Sabirov Salavat. My Telegram channel: #Yourpersonalpsychologist For an individual online consultation or for a face-to-face meeting in Volgograd, sign up at: +79050620750