I have to work with a variety of sexual problems as a psychologist-sexologist, but sometimes I happen to encounter unusual situations in the form of problems that come by gender, from which it is also necessary to look for a way out. For example, here’s a story: “Not long ago, my husband and I went to a relatives’ wedding. There were many invited. My cousin was getting married. My husband and I behaved like everyone else: we had fun, talked, drank and ate. Once I noticed that he was dancing with my aunt, but did not attach any importance to it, because she is almost fifteen years older than him. But some time passes, and I, looking through my husband’s phone (I do this from time to time, because I don’t trust him, there was already a reason) I see their correspondence: “sunny, bunny, I’m waiting”! At first I didn’t believe my eyes. Then I immediately decided to go to her and find out everything, without telling my husband anything. Apparently, I took her by surprise, and she admitted that he came to her house to help, and then everything happened between them... But she doesn’t want anything , since she’s not interested in such little ones, and there’s nothing to take from him... That’s where they parted.” And what about the husband? – He said that a similar situation would not happen again, and further added that: “all your relatives very two-faced. They say one thing to you, and another to me.” Indeed, it’s a strange thing - they advise the girl: “Get a divorce, you’ll meet someone else, why do you need him like that? You’re young, you’re good, you’ll find yourself...”, but they whisper to the husband. everything is exactly the opposite. The girl doesn’t know what to do, she listens to everyone, and brought her to the conclusion that it’s worth living with your own mind and making independent decisions, and it’s better to keep such relatives at a distance. It’s worth understanding: Why are such complexities manifested here? What goes according to the girl’s gender, and how does it resonate with this? There are no foundations, no laws are written down. the orders by which the clan lives. You could say that chaos reigns. This is where problems come from all sides. A lot of envy, negativity and blackness. We look at the layer - a girl and her aunt. There is a very interesting picture here, like in a fairy tale: “you should not be happy until I become so.” As if she is obliged to give back what she received. There is still some kind of love here, family is still valuable (although, of course, now this is a rather controversial concept). Suddenly, the aunt’s law appears: “Nothing! Still small, but already with a man. Come on, give him here.” Along the way, this her look includes the guy’s unconscious program: “she’s a strong woman. We should probably get to know her more deeply. This is a lady in her prime, and I want to understand her essence”... And the logical conclusion of this story: “back to square one.” All this the situation brings nothing but problems. The veil has left the eyes: the woman is not the same, the connection is fake, and again everything has returned to the state of initial chaos. A clear hint that one should work with generic problems and restore order. Having corrected and eliminated the generic negative, a person who has chosen for himself the mission of working with his psychogenetics always receives bonuses and instant positive changes in his life. Methods of working with the generic in the aspect of S.V. Kovalev will help here. PS This article is fictitious and has nothing to do with the real characters.