In us, in women, our inner “girl” always lives, from a very early age to the very old age. This girl does not disappear as we grow up, we just move further and further away from her, as if we are hiding her or hiding from her behind a multi-layered other, personality, feminine, adulthood, maturity, obligation, responsibilities... We wrap the girl in the thickness of our others I, as if telling her, I have no time for you, wait, then, I can’t, later, someday. Or we get angry with her for whining or asking for attention, whining and capricious, asking where she doesn’t belong and not the time. We are angry with her for asking for something beautiful or funny, tasty or funny, warm or tender, caring and mature. We treat her the way her mother and father treated her in her childhood, continuing their attitude all her life , speaking to her in their language. Do you think this is pleasant for the girl, she likes it, it makes her feel good? Very often our girl remains abandoned by us, just as when her parents had no time for her, when they had to work, take care of everyday life, and solve complex and adult problems .. and she is still waiting.. but she is already waiting for us.. It’s never too late to return to the child, call him or come to her yourself, talk and ask her forgiveness for the many years of silence, for such a time of missing years from you there is something to talk about! Our girls, like our children, want the same thing! To be needed, to be noticed, to be seen and talked to, sometimes to do something for them, to hug and cuddle, to warm them, to help in difficult times. What can you tell your girl? I love you, I need you, I remember about you, what I can do for you today, where to take you, what to feed you, what to talk about, and the child will tell you everything himself! If you knew how and what your “children” want to talk about, how much they talk during consultations and what warm, real meetings they are after 20, 30, 40, 50 years! She needs very little, the main thing is attention even then! Then you won’t accumulate that negativity that explodes inside you in hysterics, then your girl won’t whine at the most inconvenient moment and ask to see her in the process of concentrating on the matter. He will not go on stage at a moment where it is definitely not appropriate, at work, in business, in a serious situation, in a conflict. There will be no psychosomatic processes. Our child really interferes with us only in one case - if he feels unneeded, unimportant, unloved, when he lacks our energy of approval, acceptance, love and care, and this is not money, this is energy! Our child, internal and external, should always know that we remember about him, he is important to us, and then he will have his own field, and you will have your own in adulthood! Talk to her, no matter how old you are, because sometimes we they left her in the corner where her mother put her at the age of 5, or she hid under the bed from her parents’ scandal, or she was left alone in the room when the adults forgot about her, or in another “your” place. Just see her, extend your hand to her and tell her, I really need you, I want you to be with me, I love you. Without you, I forgot what a smile and sparkling eyes, joy, playfulness, laughter, entertainment, interest, lightness, pampering are. I forgot what it’s like to be in warm and caring hands, come into my arms. Just close your eyes, imagine your girl on your lap, in your arms, her warmth, her eyes, her smell and merge with her into one whole. This is my girl and she will always be with her) Become the most loving parent for your girl, and men can just like that, become a loving father of your boy, take care of him forever, then it won’t matter what and when happened in your life... You can always make up for what your dad and mom didn’t have time or weren’t able to do, do it yourself and she will feel like a completely different person! and this is how we live with her! There is time for work and for hooliganism, pampering, joy and laughter, stupidity and simplicity! Will you show your girls and boys? This is one of these hundreds of stories of meetings, written 5 years ago. The one who sits...