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From the article you will learn how to unpack repressed feelings and their impact on our lives? You can often find people who are not able to deal with their feelings properly. There can be many reasons for this , but one of them may be a prohibition by a significant adult on the child’s manifestation of “negative” feelings. For example, frequently spoken words addressed to a child: “Stop being angry with mom, aren’t you ashamed?” or the banal “Shut up!”, when the child has a feeling of anger at the parent inside, but he is afraid to express it because of the threat of further actions of the parent. And imbued with a feeling of shame and fear, Anger is suppressed, being placed inside. Growing up, such a child can ignore the appearance of anger, he can say about himself: “I never get angry at all, I’m a very kind person.” Such a person is usually trouble-free, with erased personal boundaries. After all, the rising feeling of the same anger is released in the form of energy for action, for example, in order to express it, to tell your opponent what you can do with me and what you can’t do. Or if a person understands that he is angry, he recognizes this feeling inside, but here he extinguishes it in himself. Thus, without bringing his needs to the level of awareness: “What do I really want?” He continues to be angry, first at a specific person and situation. Afterwards, the often suppressed anger is wound into a reel and the person becomes angry with the whole world and becomes less communicative. He can often be seen grouchy, he isolates himself from others, they from him, and the person loses opportunities to improve the quality of his life, which directly depend on the ability to properly communicate with the environment. One of the options to see a person’s suppressed feelings is possible in consultation, using in work Metaphorical associative cards (abbreviated MAK).MAK are cards with various life situations, characters, objects and animals. They are called that because each drawing is an association or metaphor of thoughts, feelings, memories, experiences. This is a tool of projective psychology. As an example, I will present a picture from the Anibi deck. The client describes: “The picture shows a little girl sitting on the sofa and almost crying.” To my question: “In the client’s opinion, for what reasons is the girl in such feelings and if we assume, what happened before that?” The client replies: “The girl took her mother’s cosmetic bag and accidentally broke the lipstick from the twist-out case. When the mother saw the result, she became very angry and began to scold the girl, saying that she was bad, that everything was just. spoils. The girl at first began to get angry with her mother as a sign of protest that it was not she who was bad, she did not break everything on purpose, it happened by accident, she just wanted to watch. She began to protest against the unfounded accusations, to which her mother answered threateningly: “ Better be silent, otherwise you’ll get it!” And here the girl sits with her head bowed from an unfair accusation with the fear of subsequent punishment without finding out the reasons. “I ask, “Has something similar happened in your life?” The client realized that she was talking to herself , answers: “Yes, this is completely my story, it’s about me, this is exactly what my mother did to me. She always punished without trial, I was very angry with her, but I never expressed it, because I was afraid that it would be even worse.” To my question: “And today, having become an adult, how do you express this feeling? Do you remember a specific recent situation?” The client replies: “No, I very often follow the lead of my boss, who expresses dissatisfaction with me regarding the quality of the work I have done. I take his opinion as a given, he knows better. I have no reason to be angry with him. But at the beginning of my career, I had a wave of protest against my boss, but because of the fear that it would only get worse, I kept silent, suppressing the anger that arose in myself." The client complained of causeless pain in the heart area, while according to medical examinations everything was V.