Most likely, every reader is familiar with the situation when, having jumped out of bed in the morning, you realize that you overslept... At this moment, your head is in complete chaos, since everything needs to be done - wash, get dressed, bring get yourself in order, get your child to kindergarten or school, and still have time to prepare breakfast for him, etc. Then quickly run about your business. Now those who drive their own cars will understand me well. So, you seemed to have done everything and ran out into the street. It’s freezing outside and you need to warm up the car (it’s easier for those who have auto start), you’re in a hurry, but the glass doesn’t freeze, and now, you finally get underway and drive, there are traffic jams all around and a student’s car appears in front of you, which is in no hurry. AND…. This happened to me this morning, and what I could feel at that moment, you, of course, can guess - some irritation, even anger, and I began to say: “Come on faster, what are you doing...” The son whom I drove him to school and said: “Mom, he’s just studying and can’t do it faster.” And then, I remembered how I studied myself. I remembered how scared I was at first, and that I was afraid to increase the gas, and when they honked from behind, I got confused, started to fuss, and could even stall in the middle of the road. At that moment, my irritation disappeared and sympathy and understanding appeared, and somehow strangely it turned out that this car began to move faster, without particularly delaying the cars following it. Why did I write about this? Yes, because very often we experience negative feelings towards people at the moment when they do something wrong or not as we would like, but at the same time we forget that we were once in this place ourselves. For example, we may be angry with a child because he scatters toys and then pushes them into the corners, instead of collecting them in a drawer, and we don’t understand why... I once told my mother about this, she told me that I was hiding dirty socks in toys and she also couldn’t understand why, she never scolded me for dirty socks, so she just got used to my socks being in toys. The same thing with home lessons or doing household chores, etc. Remember more often what you were like and how you felt before and, perhaps, it will be easier for you to look at different situations and easier to raise your kids. Good luck! Family psychologist Ekaterina Dolgusheva.