Each of us, at least once, caught ourselves thinking about how great it would be if sexual attraction never betrayed us. How great it would be if we desired a partner with the same intensity that is inherent in us when we are in love. How great it would be if we ourselves responded to our partner’s desires with pleasure and joy as often as he and we ourselves want. And when in our life we ​​are faced with opposite feelings, we begin to be overcome by doubts and worries: is everything okay with us? Do we need to worry that sexual desire may decrease or disappear completely at some point in our lives? And what reasons cause us to lose our desire? In sexology there is such a term: false sexual disorders. It denotes disorders in those who have no deviations in the sexual sphere at all. Withdrawal or lack of sexual desire is increasingly becoming such a false disorder. The most interesting thing is that we ourselves may be quite satisfied with the frequency of our sex life, but for some reason it begins to seem to us that this is not enough. And it is at this moment that we begin to be overcome by anxiety: is it right to want as much as we want? In fact, in different periods of life, both men and women, moments arise when the level of sexual desire decreases to a certain level, and after some time it rises again. Such periods are the norm in our sexual relationships. “The desire for desire” will accompany us throughout our adult lives, because it is, alas, impossible to maintain constantly and for a long time the high level of our desire that we maintain at the beginning of a relationship. There are understandable reasons for this. Firstly, this is the type of our sexual constitution. This indicator indicates three things: the level of sexual desire (how much we want), the level of sexual opportunity (how much we can), the level of resistance to the adverse effects of the environment (what conditions do we need in order to “be able” and “want”). We need sexual constitution in order to see and adequately assess our capabilities (frequency of sexual activity, duration between sexual acts). Attempts by us, regardless of our type of sexual constitution, to “be like everyone else” will not lead to anything good. If we try to lead a more active sex life than is determined by our sexual constitution, we increase the risk of reducing our own sexual desire. And then men begin to play it safe with additional stimulants, and as a result, against a psychological background, a weakening of the erection may occur. And in women, the level of desire decreases, to the point of indifference to caresses. The second reason is our age, and our general physical and mental condition. Agree that at 20 years old we may worry that we want our lovers every hour, and not every minute. And at 50, what we want is different from what we wanted at 20. And here you should remember the common truth: in matters of the intimate sphere there can be no general norm. Everything here is very individual. And before you make a “diagnosis” for yourself, you should listen to yourself. What is it really like for me with this pace of sex life? Why and who needs to try so hard to match that powerful and unchanging sexual appetite that advertising, films and books convey to us? And finally, the third factor is our relationship with our partner, which also changes over time. On the one hand, they become stronger, we trust our partner more and more, on the other hand, in the process of approaching, we may encounter those character qualities or habits that may be unacceptable to us. And then, if you don’t clarify these points, if you don’t talk and come to an agreement, resentment, anger, and irritation begin to accumulate, and these are not the best “companions” in the intimate side of life. Changes in any of these three factors will affect the degree of our desire , moreover, the combination of these three.