It’s interesting that when we come to some new understanding of ourselves and suddenly begin to change, this immediately causes an unexpected reaction from those around us, to put it mildly. Family and friends may start kicking us in all directions, or at least fencing us off. We suddenly become interested in psychological or spiritual practices, read books that are important to us - they may tell us: well, you’re definitely not yourself. We can dramatically change our social circle, communicate less with those with whom we previously spent all the time - we will be accused of selfishness. Clear that others react this way to our changes simply because of their fear. A loved one was alone, now what’s wrong with him? He becomes alien, strange and generally incomprehensible. He no longer fits any standards. However, at such a moment we may think to ourselves - there is something wrong with me. And of course everyone around is saying - yes, yes, yes, there is definitely something wrong with him or her! And it begins - quarrels, resentments, disappointments, separations and so on. Sound familiar? This means that we are on the path of transformation. And in such a transition period, of course, it is better to find a supportive environment and limit yourself from attacks. Let yourself grow. Strengthen yourself. The new “I” needs another space and time. Because the only opportunity to truly and sincerely be with those who at some point twisted their heads or rejected them - and this was most likely, of course, a family - is to find yourself and become them. All. If I am real, then I don’t need to rebuild anyone. Or strongly idealize someone. Or be very disappointed in someone. And when we have found our own compass within ourselves, then we no longer need to check our direction with someone else’s. We have the courage to see that where there was fear, there is now opportunity. And then you can realize yourself and inspire others with your example..