Our self-esteem is formed from childhood. This involves first our parents, relatives, then strangers, people around us (educators, teachers, peers). In the process of communicating with the society around us, we acquire certain beliefs about ourselves and begin to see ourselves through the eyes of other people, and not ourselves. Therefore, low and high self-esteem, less often adequate - this is the work of our immediate environment. And, of course, the habit of evaluating ourselves affects our lives. For example, a talented person, but with a low level of self-esteem, will never begin to do what he loves It works out great. Because he will think: “What will others think?”, “What if no one likes it?”, “What if I don’t succeed?”... And he will continue to do what he doesn’t like, but at the same time well appreciated by society. And when such a person reaches a respectable age, acquires a certain wisdom and understanding that life time is significantly reduced, then he will either begin to regret the unrealized favorite activity, or will finally begin to do it! That is why now there are so many people who, at a respectable age, receive another education, change their profession, begin to appear in society and are often successful and admired. From all of the above, it can be understood that life becomes more effective and enjoyable when people learn to relax their habit of constantly evaluating themselves as an individual. After all, self-esteem can bother you and distract you from important and necessary matters. But how, you ask, can you not evaluate? This is impossible! What about critical thinking? How can we understand without evaluation whether the person in front of us is “good” or “bad”? The answer to this question is very simple: of course, we will evaluate! But not the people themselves, but their actions! The same goes for you: ✅️evaluate your actions, not your personality.✅️If you learn to evaluate a person’s actions separately from his personality, you will become much happier. For example, in a conversation with your spouse, you will talk about what exactly you don’t like about your partner’s behavior, without getting personal. Then after quarrels you will not have any grudges. After all, you discussed each other’s actions, not personalities.✅️And, of course, start with yourself! Having learned not to judge your own personality, you will eventually learn not to judge the personalities of other people. This will give you more vital resources and energy that you can spend on your own affairs, goals and tasks, and not on discussing other people. And your life will shine with new colors!