From the author: People are ready to go to palmists to have their future predicted using the “life line” on their hand. But they do not pay attention to the fact that, having studied the trajectory of their life path, they can not only predict their future life, but also help them somehow correct their destiny. An individual life trajectory is a dual-use tool: on the one hand, it can be used as a projective test to identify key events in a person’s life and their impact on his destiny, and on the other hand, we can use this technique as a means of psychotherapy and correction of a person’s life scenario. People are ready to go to palmists in order to follow the “line of life” their hand predicted the future. But they do not pay attention to the fact that, having studied the trajectory of their life path, they can not only predict their future life, but also help them somehow correct their destiny. An individual life trajectory is a dual-use tool: on the one hand, it can be used as a projective test to identify key events in a person’s life and their impact on his destiny, and on the other hand, we can use this technique as a means of psychotherapy and correction of a person’s life scenario. The influence of his social script on a person’s life and the interference of external factors in his destiny. A life script is a program of behavior that was imputed to a person in early childhood and which he, most often unconsciously, implements throughout his life. Nevertheless, events can occur in a person’s life that greatly influence his fate, but are not directly related to his life scenario. In some cases, “fateful events” can have no less powerful programmatic impact on a person’s life than the scenario that was imputed to him in early childhood. In this case, our hero finds himself under the influence of two different programs, which can interact with each other, but can also lead to a certain synergy. For example, a girl whose childhood took place in an atmosphere of scandals between her parents. Her father’s behavior – his attitude towards her mother and towards her – was strongly imprinted in her consciousness. And with a high probability, she will find men of the same type as husbands, building relationships according to the same scenario. But there are cases when such girls come across men who are only similar in appearance to her father, and the core of their character may be completely different. Psychologists in their practice encounter cases where incorrect “casting” of a partner for the implementation of a family scenario leads to breaking this behavioral pattern. In some cases, men seem to replay the “slaves of the script” and take them out of this game. As a rule, girls in such situations at first fall into a state close to panic (as their life program is collapsing), but gradually they adapt to new conditions and principles of interaction with a partner. Situations are quite common when a man who is similar in appearance to his father imposes the girl has her own family scenario, which assumes a different plot and requires our heroine to play a slightly different role. In this case, there is a struggle over who will be able to impose their scenario on whom. Sometimes this leads to a stormy separation, but sometimes they find a “compromise”, and their scenarios get used to each other. There are cases when an event that breaks the logic of the unfolding of a life scenario is of an absolutely external nature. For example, faced with a “femme fatale” and an unhappy love, the young man is so shocked that he begins to spend his whole life proving to her that he was the very prince she was looking for. The same thing can happen to a girl who stumbles upon her “fatal man.” And these fateful encounters may have nothing to do with a person’s life scenario. It’s just that, ironically, he finds himself in the element of someone else’s game and someone else’s script. In such cases, the idea of ​​an individuallife trajectory allows us to identify the influence on a person’s life and his scenario, as well as various external factors and fateful events. Repeating phases of life scenarios and fateful events. In some cases, by indicating key events in their lives, people indicate repeating phases in the logic of the development of their life scenario. The beginning of the first serious relationship and its breakup - the second relationship - the first marriage - the second marriage and so on. In this case, we are dealing with a cyclically repeating scenario. It happens that the “fateful event” actually turns out to be just one of the acts of the scenario. For example, betrayal in the middle of a cloudless relationship or the birth of a child, after which everything changed. But we can identify events that actually turn out to be fateful in the sense that they are not directly related to the scenario. From the point of view of psychotherapy, the work of adjusting the scenario and eliminating the negative consequences of a fateful event can be different. To simplify the situation slightly, we can say that a scenario is a game that develops over time, from which a person needs to be taken out. The consequences of some events can be reflected in the human psyche in the form of a set of static psychological defenses. To some extent, when analyzing “fateful events”, it is possible to identify ways of overcoming difficulties and stress that are already available to a person. This is the experience that he can use to overcome current difficulties. True, most often it is necessary to help a person understand his own experience and his own capabilities. For psychologists, it is important to take into account the fact that the very fact of a person seeking psychological help may turn out to be a “fateful event” for him that will save him from a negative scenario. But also work with a psychologist can be incorporated into the script, when the figure of the psychologist traditionally appears at the phase of breaking up relationships or licking wounds in the field of divorce. Life scenarios and age-related crises Age-related crises are caused by both social and biological factors, and most often they are not related to the logic of the development of human life scenarios. But sometimes certain acts of the script can be tied to a specific age. For example, at the age of 40, the father or mother told the child that by their age he would have to achieve certain results. Or maybe the mother told her daughter that a young girl should not trust men, and for this reason the daughter was afraid to enter into a relationship until they began to tell her that at her age it was time to have a personal life. To some extent we can say that age-related crises are reference points in a single life scenario common to all representatives of our culture. But in those cases when some kind of age-related crisis turns out to be woven into a person’s life scenario, this period can be experienced especially painfully. Very often, perhaps due to a vague premonition of an “impending catastrophe,” people come to psychologists on the eve of the onset of an age-related crisis with which - something of a secondary problem. In fact, this problem and this request are just a pretext, and by understanding a person’s life scenario, a psychologist can help him more calmly and constructively go through the impending age crisis. Fateful Forks and Rejected Opportunities In some cases, life-changing events come in the form of a conscious choice or a choice imposed by circumstances, as well as unconscious impulses or erroneous perceptions of what is happening. In this case, it makes sense to carefully analyze the situation and understand what exactly the choice depended on and what opportunities had to be abandoned. Very often, rejected and forgotten possibilities, in principle, can be returned to a person’s life in a slightly modified form. In individual history, unlike social history, the use of the subjunctive mood is possible and justified: what would happen if... What would happen if I Not.