5th day of the blog Everyone is losing weight. Previous blog post Starting blog post There is a popular belief among psychologists that you need to live “here and now.” That such a life is a conscious life. That it gives a person the opportunity to get away from stress, problems and anxieties to awareness and understanding of what is happening in his head and around him. So, from one particular point of view, in order to teach yourself to live here and now, you need to start slowing down the speed of your life . First of all, this concerns decision-making, emotional response to a particular life situation, habitual and patterned behavior. In these cases, each person strives to act as quickly as possible. And this is good. In some situations. But at the same time, you have to control yourself quite a bit, focusing on success in almost all areas of your life. This could have an interesting side effect. Which results in the fact that when the time comes to relax and rest, at these moments the spring of volitional control swings in the opposite direction. After which the person begins to behave impulsively. For example, an overweight person begins to impulsively enter the kitchen in search of something tasty. He is not hungry, but he wants (and can) allow himself to have fun. That's right: he wants to allow himself to have fun. Some call it self-pity (indulging in food), some call it appetite (eating stress), others call it boredom (after all, when a person tries to rest, he is not doing something useful). But all of the above may just be a hoax. And a person’s impulsiveness can work. A short, clear, pleasure-oriented impulse. Without any expressed internal struggle of motives or strong emotional stress. After all, if you think about it this way, I often hear from overweight people: “I don’t eat when I’m stressed. When they end, then no one will stop me.” A typical spring that is first retracted and then released... What I will try (and perhaps you will join): The “slowing down the impulsiveness” technique. A certain commitment is made. For example. Arrive at the airport early. Submit the report by a certain date. Keep your promise. In general, any action that is tied to an obligation on one side. And by time - on the other hand. Or any urgent need is taken. Relax after intense work. Hunger. Sleep. A certain amount of time is allocated during which the implementation of an obligation or need will not occur. Not because it's impossible. But because you deliberately take time for yourself NOT doing what you need. Third. There is a process of observing oneself and one’s feelings in the process of counteracting one’s impulsiveness. Goal. Learn to move into the observer position when necessary, thereby reducing the likelihood of impulsive behavior when it is NOT necessary. Scope. For example, for an overweight person, these are evenings, get-togethers with friends, corporate events and other trips. These are situations where the likelihood of impulsive overeating increases. For any person with conflict, this is the prevention of complications in communication. When situations are initially deliberately chosen that can be overwhelmed with emotions. And it is in these situations that one learns to control one’s impulsiveness. It is important. Impulse control should not be confused with emotional suppression. The goal of impulse control is to give you more flexibility in everyday life situations. You can subscribe to my articles and blog posts here Do you want to learn how to manage your neurosis on your own? Take an online psychocorrection course individually or in a group! You may also find my following articles useful::