From almost every corner we hear about high or low self-esteem. And most likely we immediately imagine some kind of “confident macho” or shy “gray mouse”. But do we understand correctly what self-esteem is? We often confuse self-esteem with self-confidence. Self-confidence is related to the actions we take (or don't take), and self-esteem is related to the feeling of self-worth, the feeling that I am a worthwhile and valuable person. Healthy self-esteem is to consider yourself significant, regardless of your achievements. A person with low self-esteem blames only himself for all his failures and questions the very value of his personality, while sometimes it is necessary to pay attention to the circumstances. Agree, it sounds strange that a person changes his attitude towards himself as a result of success or failure in some However, its significance varies depending on achievements and failures. But this is exactly what we often practice, despite the fact that our whole life consists of ups and downs. A person with healthy self-esteem and a stable attitude towards himself will more easily endure failures, will not endlessly “gnaw” himself and engage in self-flagellation. Most often, people use a set of the following criteria by which they determine their importance and success: appearance, income, personal life, number of likes on social networks, opinions of others, compliments, etc. But all these criteria are external, they do not truly reflect our opinion about ourselves, SELF-esteem. These factors should not act as a scale for you to determine the importance and value of yourself (but this does not mean that you should not think about your career, income, appearance, etc.). Let’s take as an example a person who has his own value and significance relates to the amount of money earned. Will he ever be completely satisfied with his income? Most often, people increase their expenses as their income increases, and they want more and more money. Will this person become worthless if he suddenly loses his money? I think you know the answer. But why do we continue to associate our value with external circumstances??