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Her husband learns of his potential bankruptcy. He is prudent, pragmatic, and rules harshly in business and at home. His young, beautiful blonde wife is cheating. Blinded by love, she plans to get a divorce. The artist who satisfies her needs thinks of divorcing her. And I suggest you find the reasons for adultery through schema therapy. Look! A little plot outline. Lover is a scammer targeting Gwyneth Paltrow's character's millions. He learned to draw in prison. Almost bankrupt - his deceived husband, played by Michael Douglas, comes up with the “ideal” murder plan. He hires his wife's lover to commit the crime. How does her death benefit him? Blinded by love during the engagement period, the heiress to a multimillion-dollar fortune refused to sign a marriage contract. They offered her, but she did it her way. In this action I see an overcompensation of her inherent scheme (according to Jeffrey Young). She also pushed the girl to cheat. In schema therapy, the analysis of emotional problems is based on the needs of the person. It is important for the specialist (me) to understand what client needs are not being met at the moment. Find similar moments in life in the past. Let's look at Gwyneth Paltrow's character! She tells her friend that she has no independence and completely does only what her husband wants. They look like an ideal couple, but in reality they have no choice. What need of a millionaire is not being satisfied? Autonomy. After all, she is not mourning about faded love, not about the loss of passion. It does not require special treatment, although in terms of status it could have a pattern of exclusivity (violation of boundaries). But she is ashamed in front of her deceived husband. After all, she once adored him so much that she did not sign the marriage contract protecting her. Or did she not sign it, satisfying her need for autonomy? Everyone says: “We must sign”! And I will go on the defensive and do my own thing, even if it’s stupid. Does your husband dictate the rules of life? And I will take a poor artist as a lover and install my own. I found a recording and a voice recorder in my husband’s safe. I listened. She found out that he hired a killer for her! Run to the police! Run immediately while he washes off the blood in the shower! And I will tell him that I know everything! My achievements require recognition, right? So what is the reason for adultery? (He was underfed, but he became a legend - HERE) From the phrase about strict control on the part of the spouse and the points described above, I assume the prevailing pattern is “Violation of Autonomy.” But there are also elements of “Emotional deprivation”. After all, she didn’t go to the police when she discovered that she had the key to the apartment of the mercenary who was trying to kill her. She went to the “cave of the beast” on her own. Or did she again violate generally accepted rules, defending the need for independence? I watched the 1998 thriller “A Perfect Murder” on April 3, 2022, in the seat of a plane from Irkutsk to Moscow. I do not recommend this type of video for people who are prone to anxiety. In reality, getting on your nerves during a five-hour flight is an additional stress, which is better to do without (and we also experienced a turbulence zone five times). But there was food for analyzing through the film a negative pattern of behavior - not acting according to the rules, taking risks without obvious need. Have you seen “A Perfect Murder”? Is the analysis of the character’s pattern of negative behavior clear? You know, with a real client (for example, with you) it will be different, because there will be a dialogue between us, and not a scenario-based one-sided reality. Sincerely, practicing psychologist, member of the Automatic Transmission Committee of St. Petersburg, author of books Peter Galigarov - I help those who want to get to know themselves better and start living happily. April 2, 2022 I will conduct a workshop in Irkutsk.