From the author: We say “no” and don’t offend anyone! Do you often say “no” if you don’t want to do something? Do you have the courage to just say no? After all, it’s your right... But for most of us, saying “no” is very difficult. I want to tell you how there is a “no” and how to use it so as not to be upset later.☝️Perhaps you will choose the option that is easier to start with? And over time, you will be able to do this confidently, thereby adequately protecting your nervous system and your boundaries. 😎 And so, the option of a confident master user is “no”: - No, I can’t do this. No, I prefer not to do this - pronounced confidently, convincingly and without a note of justification. Useful when we don’t want to talk about the true reasons for the refusal. We have the right to this.🤗A variant of a confident user “no” with the makings of a manipulator - Empathetic “no”: - I understand that this is important for you / very necessary / how difficult it is for you, but unfortunately, I won’t be able to do it... -we empathize with all our hearts for the petitioner, reflect his feelings, but in the end we say “no”, because... we don’t want to get involved in this.🧐Confident “no” user with the makings of practicality - Reasonable “no”.- I can’t do this because I’m very busy with my project / promised the children to spend time with them - this is very important to me! – works very effectively if your reason for refusal is very compelling and you are ready to disclose it. The key here is brevity! , so that there is no reason to cling to your doubt. 🤔Advanced user “no”, seeking to remove his doubts – Pushed “no”.- I need to think... I’ll tell you later... I’m not entirely sure of my usefulness to you... - we don’t give an answer immediately, taking a break to think about it, because... we have doubts - we shouldn’t, I can’t, I can’t... This type of “no” gives your petitioner a chance to return to the conversation and hope... hence the complexity of your situation... Beginner user “no” - Loyal “no” - I can’t do this is right now, but I’ll do it tomorrow/in two days... -as if “no”, but the winner here is the one asking, because the work fell on you and now you are responsible for the result. If you want to get at least some satisfaction from your beginning “no”, add your own conditions that are convenient for you, for example: - I will do it tomorrow, but in a draft version, the design is on you. 😉 Well, and my favorite - Universal- diplomatic “no” - Can I help you in some other way? --We don’t say “no” openly, we invite you to solve the problem, and even seem interested... Leaving yourself a huge field - either refuse, because... option is not suitable, or choose the best. Which “no” do you like? And can you say no? Are you teaching your children to say “no” tactfully and still stay in their own best interests? Peace to your home! Children's and family psychologist - Natalia Sedova. https://www.b17.ru/id302953/?prt=302953