And again to the section of emotions in people’s lives, the development of emotional intelligence. In the most ordinary conscious state, a person can clearly identify and describe his feelings. To any object or phenomenon surrounding him. When asked, what do you think about the person? It is logical to name his personality traits or external indicators, to draw up his own perceptual portrait (again, relying on his own experience of communicating with people or scientific literature on physiognomy). You can mislead your impression of a person through artificially thought-out behavioral (manners, gestures, gait, posture) and external factors (clothing, makeup, accessories, image in general). What feelings do you evoke in the people around you? This is a topic that worries most of humanity (what will they think of me? Have they thought? Are they thinking now?) Only a few people do not want to know this secret. For various reasons. Narcissists - because they are convinced of falling in love with themselves and their rightness. People with adequate self-esteem may want to receive feedback about themselves from the world, but they react to it in a balanced way and do not specifically chase praise or hate. People with traumas related to assessment of feelings (codependent, traumatized in their family, society) Physiologically unable to track feelings and name them, alexethymics (autism spectrum disorder, Asperger's syndrome, some other mental disorders). They do not know feedback about other people’s feelings towards their own personality. Let's dwell on normative social communications. The ability to track the feelings of other people is an important social skill, not only for partner family relationships, harmonious parent-child relationships and effective professional ones. This skill is universally important for a person, because emotional self-regulation is a response to emotions from the outside and working with one’s own emotional background. For example, a person is angry with you (and there is anger in resentment, in jealousy, it always arises after fear) and what emotion arises in you, reflecting the anger of your counterpart - this is the work of your emotional intelligence. Emotional behavior in conflict is a portrait of your personal deficits or capabilities. Your emotional experience is both theoretical and practical. How important is it for you to understand how you make people feel? Psychologist, psychosomatologist Galina Yakovenko. Viber, WhatsApp, Telegram89271287007