The web in the forest. I'm afraid of spiders. There is a place in the forest, you can go around it. I love the forest - I’m filling up...I’m expanding my psychological container for family, work, life in general. What is difficult to endure, my inner container helps to withstand. It’s a pity that for many it is full. Sometimes, since childhood, and unfortunately, it was filled by those closest to him. They themselves cannot cope with their feelings throughout their adult lives. The child involuntarily picks up this emotional burden. Or the child was unable to form his own container - the parents were not ready to withstand the child in his experiences. They didn’t notice, or, worse, they shut him up, ridiculed him, leaving the child alone in this stress, and even with the demand to stop. Thus, the child does not gain experience in how to take care of himself and count on the support of loved ones. It is safer to acquire a shell. In the shell, everything human is so frozen that the deadening of feelings occurs. The person falls into dissociation in order to survive the tearing pain. “I control myself, I don’t lose heart, I don’t cry in pain, I don’t complain when I feel bad.” True, if the shell cannot withstand the pressure and cracks, so much rage can escape from there. On the same loved ones. Nobody wants this, but no one has canceled the laws of energy. So people get confused in the web of pain and rage, which is much more difficult to get around than in the forest. Containment is what the therapist often does at first when working with such clients. Getting out of the web. Do you want your child to cope with life? Then find the resource within yourself to console him, to give space to his experiences. Let him cry, get angry, upset or afraid - the necessary help from parents is to teach the child to accept the imperfections of the world. Without containment, he remains in these emotions and often goes into idealization or abandonment of feelings in order to withstand the reality of the world. If you have already grown up, but have not received the experience to grow your own container, then you can learn how to do it yourself. The help of a psychologist will speed up this process significantly. I’m glad to help you find answers to your questions +79529567068