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Contact is a process of interaction, interaction, exchange of a person (organism) with the environment, a process of contact with someone different from me. An interesting fact is that not every interaction is contact. Contact in the Gestalt approach involves fully experiencing the actual situation “here and now”, feeling the unified interaction of oneself and the environment while recognizing differences. Insufficient contact with what is happening “here and now”, the absence of a real “sense of self” leads to an escape into the past (historical thinking ) or into the future (anticipatory thinking). In my psychological practice, I have learned one useful exercise that I use both in life and when working with clients. At the beginning of counseling, I almost always ask the question: “How much of your attention is here now? Where is the rest of your attention? I seem to be restoring contact with reality, with what is happening “here and now.” In life, when playing, for example, with children, I can mentally go somewhere, losing contact with them. Children feel this well when you are with them only physically, but not completely. Then I also ask myself, where is my attention now? Where there is attention, there is energy, this energy is directed towards satisfying the need. As for my contact cycles, the longest and longest slips for me occur “thanks to” introjection. I assumed a lot from childhood, from society, for example, “why get a second higher education when you already have one, especially after 35,” “it’s impossible to study with two children,” etc. It took me several years to overcome this resistance. And only when I was completely freed from the introjects imposed on me, I was able to enroll at MIP as a psychologist. And now I am moving forward in my learning cycle, and I understand that I have chosen the right path. In the 21st century, the rapid development of means of communication leads to the distortion of contact. I thought that if contact in the concept of Gestalt therapy is associated with satisfying our needs, then the aggressive influence of the media leads to the fact that a person begins to satisfy not his true needs, but what is imposed from the outside (for example, buys 5 bottles of perfume or starts drinking yogurt in the morning), does what is fashionable. In this regard, I am sure that reducing time in the information space, primarily on the Internet and television, can help a person hear himself again.