From the author: When you live the life of a child, you kill 2 lives at once: yours and the child’s. So the holiday of the first of September has passed. The news feed is simply littered with photographs of children. I’m not saying anything about the fact that even without the holiday there is a lot of content about their children on VK, IG, and FB. To be honest, this outrages me. I just want to ask: Do you have your own life or do you live the life of a child? If your page is littered with photographs of your children, then you are definitely not living your life. Every mother (yes, there are fathers too) simply believes that she should post a photo with her children or, in extreme cases, next to the stroller. And I wonder what unconscious motive drives these people? The child clearly could not say: “Mom, take a selfie with me and post it on VK.” So which one? Get approval, recognition or attention from society? Then come up with a better way and don’t make the child a means with which you satisfy your needs. A separate song about merger. When the mother says “we pooped” at a couple of months, then this is still normal. Although I would like to ask: “Did you do this together or separately?” But when she says “we entered the university”, this is a complete scribe, meaning that the child has been growing all this time and continues to grow without personal boundaries in relation to the mother. As a consequence, problems with society, the opposite sex and all that entails. Every second person suffers from this. What outrages me most is that parents realize their ambitions at the expense of the child. Absolutely every parent realizes their ambitions at the expense of their children. I say absolutely everyone, because really every parent does this. It depends only to what extent and how unconsciously. This applies to absolutely everything. Starting from what sport or section to enroll your child in and ending with what university to enter and what job to get. As a result, parents do not live their own lives and do not allow the child to live his own. The complete destruction of authentic existence is killed at the root. It slams shut like a door. And the only way to open this door is to become more aware. The more awareness, the larger the gap, the more life for yourself and your children. An authentic and responsible life that belongs to oneself. This is the only way happiness is available. Realize your ambitions yourself, and not at the expense of your children. Then children will realize their own, and not at the expense of their children..