It is not without reason that divorce is considered one of the most traumatic situations for all participants in this process. After all, along with the collapse of the union, joint plans, expectations, hopes collapse, and if there are children in the family, this most often becomes a tragedy. How to help yourself and your family during this painful period? First of all, you need to remember that any separation is easier to live with , if it passed without any understatements, and the partners do not have fierce hatred towards each other. It sounds incredible - they break up precisely because of problems, misunderstandings, quarrels! This is the whole secret and magic. Having parted on a wave of mutual grievances and claims, you will savor what torments you for a very long time. The brain does not like unfinished stories (everyone’s favorite unclosed gestalts) and will desperately seek an explanation for what happened, repeatedly digging out from its depths every sideways or unkind glance of a partner from the past. Of course, we are not talking now about those situations where there is physical violence in the family - here you must first escape, and then deal with internal experiences. When couples with children separate, it is generally extremely important to maintain good, friendly relationships (provided that both parents are adequate and not dangerous to the children). Otherwise, how will you communicate and interact? Children will feel any negative non-verbal “breeze”, so it is important to accept your partner and the fact that you are simply not suitable for each other, but remain parents to your kids. Even if you separated amicably, divorce is always a loss. Give yourself time to live it the way you want, without listening to anyone. Only you yourself know what is best for you. If you want to immediately enter into a fleeting relationship without obligations, please (provided that the new partner agrees to this format). If you want to close yourself off from everyone and not discuss your grief - for God’s sake, it’s your right not to answer annoying questions. If you want to cry, cry. Find an outlet for your emotions, this is guaranteed to ease the condition and bring you back to life faster. If you feel that you are unable to cope with the departure of a loved one (after all, sometimes it happens that only one person from the couple initiates the divorce, and he is adamant), go immediately to a specialist. Divorce is one of the most common causes of depression and other mental disorders. It is better to prevent any disease without waiting for it to appear. In the case of children, it should generally be a strict rule that in the event of a divorce they are taken to a child psychologist. This will allow you to avoid a huge number of problems in the future. When you have moved away from your worries a little, return to your normal life - do not forget about your favorite hobbies, travel, communication with loved ones and friends, do not close yourself off from people. Maintain your self-esteem and respect your ex-partner - you You probably spent a lot of time together and you have something to thank him for. If you did everything to preserve the union, but it still broke up, never blame yourself. You can only summarize and draw conclusions, but you shouldn’t torture and torment yourself with accusations. What other recommendations would you add to this list? Sign up for a consultation: WhatsApp, Telegram +7 913 380-83-42 Skype: as3808342 Learn to manage your emotions!💪