HOW DO WE TRAIN OUR WEAKNESS🆘Thanks to neurobiological research, we know that we ourselves form our attitude towards life through “training” of certain neurons. Please start reading the post with ❤In our childhood a huge number of active neurons: we are interested in everything, we have questions and curiosity about everything; then we begin to “train” those neurons that are most significant for us and are responsible for our values, and as a result, the more “narrow” our life, the higher the probability that in old age we will “train” three to five neurons: to eat, sleep, scold the state, shift responsibility. Almost like in a poem: street, street lamp, pharmacy 😅If we imagine that neurons are also responsible for our functions such as “I can” and “I want” 💯then with a healthy attitude towards them, we can expand our abilities every year and possibilities. ❌Or vice versa, train my weakness (I can’t) and limitations. In our culture, it is common to “cover up” our “I don’t want” with the fact that “I can’t.” ❌And this training in weakness begins from a very early age with the question: “What do you mean I don’t want?”, when in response it is important to come up with a good reason not to be able to, and otherwise you may face the adverse consequences of your “I don’t want.” This is how the fears that control the lives of most people are formed: ❌ fear that if we refuse without citing a fatal illness, then someday this person will refuse our request; ❌ fear that we will be considered “with a crown on our head,” and this means we will be closer to outcasts (upstarts who think of themselves, etc.);❌fear that we will hurt a person (offend, reject, betray), which means this may come back to us like a boomerang;❌fear of being bad and unwanted;❌ There can be many fears. It’s terrible, of course, that without realizing them a person becomes a hostage and a slave.✅A healthy person understands exactly what he wants and what he doesn’t, what he can and what he can’t. He has the courage to speak sincerely about his desires and possibilities , even if he dresses up to face his own imperfection in the eyes of others (the best way to overcome fear is courage)❌ A less healthy situation is when a person understands what he wants and what he doesn’t, but for the sake of the illusion of “being good” he is ready to lie and justify himself as learned for many years with excuses “I can’t, because parents, children, husband, friends, state, health, employer, etc.” Every year in this case, increasing their weakness more and more.❌❌The most unhealthy situation is when a person In general, he no longer understands what he wants, what he doesn’t want, and what he can or cannot do. In this case, he has already completely lost himself.❌ Thus, every year you can aggravate the situation of weakness, moving further and further away from your healthy self. Living life under the shadow of fears and misconceptions.✅Or begin to form a conscious and healthy attitude towards yourself and your life, through personal work with a psychologist. After all, the skill of weakness was formed through relationships with others (parents, friends, etc.), and therefore healing from it is only through healthy relationships. PS: therapy begins with a person finding 1 hour of time for himself and deciding to spend money on himself. This in itself is already therapeutic. What we call intensive psychotherapy is actually an accelerated educational process aimed at achieving maturity, delayed for twenty, thirty or more years due to attempts to live with a childish attitude towards life.D. Bugental Live ❤your life and choose yourself!Natalia Sergeevna Rogova 🔰certified and practicing psychologist-consultant I invite you to personal consultations 🤝Magazine about psychologists and more https://t.me/psyholog_placeSite: http://rogovanatalya.ru