Who can stop you from becoming happy? It’s a strange question at first glance, but often we don’t allow ourselves to find or create our own individual happiness. And we’re also afraid, to be honest. The whole point is that happiness is a choice, a choice not only of what and how you will do, but also a choice of responsibility for the consequences that will certainly come. This is where people stumble most often. By all accounts, happiness is when you have a lot of pleasure and at the same time you do not feel guilty about it, and you are not ashamed at all. And this is already a very difficult task. After all, then you can receive condemnation, and from your closest and dearest. Fear of such a reaction sometimes keeps people from becoming happier. Are you really afraid that they will consider you shamelessly happy? This only means that you still consider yourself not an adult, but a child of your parents. And, therefore, separation has not happened for you, let’s hope for now. If you absolutely need permission for happiness, for your own happiness, from mom and dad, and you haven’t received it, then this is an alarm bell. Most likely, this dependence on your parents influences most of your decisions. It turns out to be a very unpleasant picture. You are locking yourself in a cage from which there is no way out. After all, in essence, you yourself allow other people, even close ones and family, to decide for you what you can and cannot do. It is understandable that parents have difficulty accepting the idea that you are already an adult. There is such a peculiarity in our country that we consider already adult uncles and aunts part of ourselves and do not let them go free. In this case, all means are used, from accusations of callousness and ingratitude to blackmail. However, aren’t you tired of being under the hood? Maybe it's time to start living your own life, without looking at your parents. And this is not at all about breaking off all relations with them, or stopping treating them warmly. It's just a question of your personal boundaries. Parents live their lives, and you live yours. And these lives may differ. You have every right to be happy in your own way, and not as mom and dad think. Practitioner psychologist Anton Chernykh You can sign up for a personal online consultation with me to solve problems, change your attitude towards yourself, by writing to me on WhatsApp/Telegram 89205430457